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Ninji's picture

Conversation I had with SO on the way home from work yesterday

He was talking about SS. He finally had a decent day at school, after spending the weekend with us and being grounded from video games.

The last two weeks he was rude to SO on the phone the few occasions he was actually willing to speak to SO

SO: I tell them (skids) that they have the ability to make or break my day (talking about SS being rude on the phone or refusing to talk to him)
ME: Don't you think you are giving two kids way too much power
SO: It's not that (He then changes the subject)

I found this to be absolutely ridiculous. First off to really feel that way and second to voice it to two kids.

Bio's out there. Is this how you would feel/react if your kid was rude to you or refused to speak to you on the phone because they were screwing up in school?

I say if SO feels like SS's behavior towards him is "making or breaking his day" then he needs to make or break SS's day. Start by tossing all those toys that are never used and break some video games.

Am I wrong?

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NoWireCoatHangarsEVER's picture

You arent wrong. he just gave them way too much power and trust me, they are going to abuse it

zerostepdrama's picture

He's giving them too much power.

I mean I "get" what he is saying. At times I felt the same way with my BS. When Ex and I first split up and I was trying to navigate through everything and I let my parenting slip. But then I bucked up and took care of business. Now I make or break BS's day depending on his attitude.

Ninji's picture

I understand that it saddens him when SS behaves like that and won't talk to him. Maybe I just don't get it like he does because I don't have bios.

Silent River's picture

If it frustrates you now, it will be worse after marriage, trust me. Crappy parenting is one of the few things duct tape can't fix. Run and don't look back.

misSTEP's picture

That is Victim Speak. Nobody can force you to feel a certain way. YOU are completely in charge of how you feel in response to any given situation.