My boyfriend does not enforce chores for my teen stepsons
So! I don't have any children of my own but I imagined what type of mother I would be and what I expect of them. I am 30 yrs old and I'm trying to create a smooth operating environment before my potential child gets here. I'm trying my best because I love my boyfriend and I don't want this to be the end of our relationship but he is not hearing me out! Long story short they are 15-16 and I have never saw them take the trash out. The leave plates of food in the sink instead of rinsing them and putting them in our GOOD QUALITY DISHWASHER! Takeout bags crumbs toaster ovens all over the counter. Also the youngest tells me some my meals are basic and that my promise ring is corny! (That hurt my feelings) He allows them to order takeout even if I'm cooking. One day I decided to talk to my bf about it and he blew up on me telling me he doesn't want anyone attacking his kids! (As if he didn't know me at all) Then also revealed he felt like I never did enough around the house before he got custody of the kids. That blew me away he never mentioned that to be before and we have been living together for awhile! All because I suggested chores!! They always stay up til 2 or 3 am and Ive let him know it disturbs my sleep he basically stated it's the summer time schools out and that im not working so no curfew! I feel sad everyday idk if he just thinks I'm purposely complaining I don't feel like I can tell him anything about his kids so I don't say anything anymore ANY SUGGESTIONS PLEASE???