Just found this site and very excited to find some people that have grappling with the same issues as me. I've been a SM for almost 4 years now, and it seems to be getting harder and harder for me to deal with it. I have no close friends that have skids, so no experiences to learn from other than my own upbringing (which was less than ideal!). My skids really couldn't care less about my existence. Their BM is a jealous and pathetic woman (she really is a nightmare), even though my DH and I have bent over backwards to make our situations work as best we can. I can't believe he had 3 CHILDREN WITH HER!!!!
Anyway I'm feeling more and more overhelmed by the fact that I've sacrificed so much, including uprooting my whole life so their BD can live near them. I look after them, try to connect and play with them, feed them, clean up after them, take them on holidays and buy them gifts, and yet they can barely even remember to say hello to me when they come over. I never say a bad word against their BM even they repeat horrible lies about me that she tells them.
Why am I killing myself to make it work? I love my DH so much but I'm starting to question how our relationship can continue when I resent his children so much. I never wanted kids, and I'm realising that I want skids even less.
Does it ever get better?