Good kid, really?
I'm sick and tired of hearing DH tell me about how he wishes I loved his kids as much as he does and how he doesn't understand my negative feelings towards SS because SS is a "good kid".
This is what I wish I said - Really, DH?? Sure, SS is cordial to me. I'm cordial to him and I've stopped doing any discipline, so, yeah, he doesn't hate me right now. Being cordial to me doesn't mean he's a good kid. Here's just a few of the reasons why I don't think your precious child is good kid...
-He never showers. When you tell him to, he sits on the toilet playing video games while the water is running. Then, he persistently sticks to his lie that he's showered.
-His primary mood of engagement has been manipulation ever since I've known him. He's falsely accused you of abuse.
-He's upset and angry when the youngest one gets educational toys. Before that, he was upset and angry that the baby got a crib and a car seat.
-He urinates everywhere. Behind a couch, in the shower, in our bushes, in the neighbor's trees, in a washer/dryer. The world is his toilet!
-He tries to buy video games on adults' accounts without asking on a regular basis. You have to constantly check what he's trying to purchase.
-You spend way more time getting him to do his chores than if you just did them yourself. And, he's constantly lying about what he gets done.
-He spends your money like it grows from trees. He doesn't care at all. He cuts up his clothes and sneakers for fun, so you have to get him new ones.
-He gets depressed or gives me the look of death when he has to eat what I made for dinner. WTF, I don't even want to cook for him, but you want him to eat healthy and you don't cook. Make him leave the effing table when he is doing that!
-He fairly recently jabbed a kid at school with a pen. He has had outburst/anger issues in the past. So no, I'm not going to get on his bad side and DS1 is not going to be alone with him...ever.
DH - just because he doesn't outright disrespect me, doesn't mean he's a good kid.