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BM - having a hissy over nothing

NCMilGal's picture

So, DH and I are going to Louisiana for Xmas. Aside - kill me now, it's going to be MIL, SD12, DH's brother and his wife, all four of his sisters and their husbands/fiance and us.... Why did I sign up for this? Luckily, most are not staying at MIL's.

We're going to be picking up SD12 on the way, this coming Sunday, and dropping her off the following Saturday. This has been in the works for well over a month. DH gave BM the rough timeline at least two months ago. DH told SD the idea after it had been okayed. Everything is hunky-dory.

So today, DH emailed BM with times - noon on Sunday, around the same the following Saturday. BM replies with, "And if those times aren't good for me? You're so unreasonable!! You never cooperate! We need to co-parent!" Because, if it isn't doing what BM wants, it's unreasonable.

And here's her reasoning.... BM, her husband, and her 5-yr-old will be be-bopping around the state that second weekend, which she never notified us of. Their location has changed twice today, so who knows where they will really be. Right now, DH is on the phone with her negotiating drop-off, or the potential of leaving SD at MIL's for an extra day so BM can pick her up on the way home. Of course, BM has to consult with her husband - DH isn't asking me what I want, but he knows that if he ticks me off, he has to live with me. I think I win.

~Trish

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BMJen's picture

her plans are so important huh? You are being joined up for the "I hate the Beast Bitch" club. I started it. Because we have a beast bitch alot like yours. The only important thing in the world is herself.

I just wish my beast bitch would find a husband, then maybe she'd consult him instead of always thinking she needs to consult mine. Blum 3

Sia's picture

BM's do they ever think of anyone BUT themselves?????

NCMilGal's picture

It's just BM trying to exert power and control over the situation. Laughable, really. DH is perfectly willing to be reasonable if you LET HIM KNOW what's going on.

When he got on the phone with her, he started saying, "then we need to figure out a half-way point." I raised my eyebrows at him, because we have a freakin' 15 hour drive, it'd be just like BM to make us come two hours in the wrong direction. When she hung up the phone to "consult" (I thought she ran rough-shod over her husband - it only took two minutes) I informed DH that there was no way I would be happy about going in the wrong direction before such a long drive. He responded by teasing me that he could drive me to Washington State and I wouldn't notice until we got there, and yeah, kinda true. But I like that we can tease each other instead of me flying into a rage and him telling me to get a life. In the end, if BM is too ridiculous, we're going to leave SD at MIL's for a night - BM will be going right past on her way home. That was DH's decision. We win!

BM was also blathering on about the Twilight series, how she won't let SD read it. (It evolved from coordinating Xmas gifts for SD - she'd been asking for books) I wouldn't either, but for a different reason. BM is all, "oh noes, there's VAMPIRES!!" But she hasn't read the books, and I have. Now me, I don't like the underlying message where the girl has to give up all her friends and her entire life, WANTS to, and IT'S THE RIGHT THING TO DO because "it's true love!" And this is one reason why BM and I will NEVER see eye to eye - BM sees absolutely nothing wrong with that idea. That woman and her way of thinking makes my head explode.

~Trish