DH's attorney can't even think of a good reason why her attorney would advise her to do it, but who knows. He's meeting with his attorney once the paperwork is served. She did say that it won't look good on BM that she essentially walked away from a negotiation that was almost otherwise settled, but what real bearing that will have on a court's decision is unknown.

She's pregnant and butt-hurt that DH doesn't bend to her demands. No clue who would be coaching her, but I'm sure there's a wealth of trash surrounding her and egging her on.

Oh I don't doubt her lawyer is happy to oblige and bill her accordingly. DH gets a very deep discount with his attorney through his union, so at least that works in our favor.

BM thinks the world owes her something and that she is entitled to everything she wants. No doubt in my mind she's expecting to walk into court and have the judge hand her everything she wants.

They weren't technically in mediation. They just had a meeting between the two of them and their attorneys to work out the remaining issues in the change order. BM basically refuses mediation every time DH offers it because she doesn't want to pay her share of the $300 fee. Going to court, the judge will likely order mediation before any resolution is made; so we'll see if they can get an agreement in place at that time (unlikely).

Yeah, DH will be meeting with his attorney whenever the papers are served (probably later this week) to discuss the game plan.

There are so many things that have been hinging on working out the change order .. like child support. DH is wondering if he can go ahead and file for the reduction now, even though she just filed for the order of change. Under the existing arrangement, he owes about $25/month; but because their incomes haven't been adjusted in over 3 years (and she is making significantly more), he's still paying a higher rate.

She also wants the weekend of Oct 5 to take the girls out of state for a vacation. That's also on DH's time. To be clear, she sent an email saying she was taking them, not really asking. DH told her no, but offered to switch days if she could come up with comparable days to switch. No word back on that yet either.

DH is just done with the constant compromises and playing nice. He very firmly put his foot down with the sports, and I think BM should expect nothing less than strict adherance to the agreement from here on out.

Yeah, although this entire process has been extremely stressful and nerve-racking (sp?) at times, I think this comes as a blessing in disguise. It will be good to have a judge finally put to rest all the crap they've been going back and forth over. I know it will drag the process out even longer, but hopefully there will be some more definite resolution when it's all said and done.

It sucks we've spent so much money on an attorney trying to get the change order done, but it could've been worse. DH is on board for complete silence with BM unless absolutely necessary.