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Silence speaks volumes

morethanibargainedfor's picture

It's Friday. Which means SD13 is coming tonight.
Something weird happened last night.....
SO has been out of town for a couple of weeks for work so we haven't had a chance to have the discussion we are supposed to have about SD.
I pick her up after work on our weekends because I get off earlier than SO. Last night SO texts me and says "I'm going to try to be home at normal time tomorrow. I will pick SD up." This will be the first time in like 9 months that he has picked her up! I asked what was wrong and why he didn't want me to pick her up and he said because I shouldn't have to. DING DING DING S/O you got it! You win the prize!!! I SHOULDN'T have to!! I should be able to go home and relax with a coffee after work instead of rushing to pick up your kid and have her not talk to me and then spend an uncomfortable couple of hours in the house alone with her while we avoid each other.

I think he knows what's coming. I think he knows that I'm going to lay it all out when we have our talk and tell him that I'm tired of being a door mat and I'm tired of feeling uncomfortable in my own house. Do I mind picking SD up every other weekend? No I don't. I mind is when she's a little bitch to me and doesn't say thank you and doesn't even say hi to me.

Men can be so stupid sometimes. We don't mind doing things for our skids. We mind when it becomes expected and when we are taken advantage of, not appreciate and walked all over.

When are they going to get it??

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Annanymous's picture

That's great! He can pick her up whenever he is off. Why should you and she be alone in the house like that when she can wait at home happily and you can get a couple hours alone pre SK?

morethanibargainedfor's picture

My thoughts exactly! I think and hope he is starting to get it! I get so annoyed when I pick her up because she is NEVER ready so this just eliminates one more thing I have to feel resentful for.

constantly_irritated's picture

They need the alone time together anyway. He needs to take care of it all the time.

bluehighlighter's picture

"We mind when it becomes expected and when we are taken advantage of, not appreciate and walked all over.

When are they going to get it??"

DING DING DING

good luck!

misSTEP's picture

My DH seems to have a 6th sense about this type of thing. It seems like when I am most resentful or whatever to do with him, he will catch on and say stuff like how much he appreciates me and what a great, understanding wife I am, etc. etc. etc.

It's nice to hear but I'd like to hear it BEFORE I get resentful or frustrated. It's like getting flowers after a fight. You don't have to be a jackass in order to get me flowers. Just get them for the heck of it because you know I love them!