From reading posts on here I see that alot of BM's are the same. I understand that some BM's feel that they are ENTITLED to whatever they can get, but good grief why try and break the bank so you can one day get NOTHING!!! It really doesn't make sense to me. If DH is paying support ON TIME EVERY SINGLE MONTH plus covers insurance, why ask for more? If Skids are loved in both homes by both SETS of parents then why in the world would you continue to try and throw a wrench into the situation?????? I am a BM and a SM and just don't get it. I have my life with my DH and my ex has his life with my BS's stepmom. We all love BS very much and I give them no grief about extra money, medical bills, 1/2 of copays, etc. I don't feel that I am entitled to anymore than I receive and let me tell you my child support was set over 8 years ago and it has not been raised, by my choice, and I will not raise it. I do not receive alot, but I feel the amount I do receive is fair for 1 child and he and his wife do cover insurance on BS. Why send out co-pay receipts to get half back? That is just ridiculous in my opinion. I don't mind taking care of SD's. I make sure all child support is sent out on time, actually ahead of time and insurance is covered. SD14 hasn't visited our home in over 2 years but we still provide for her SD4 comes all the time. SD4 has a decorated room, has clothes and shoes galore, hairbows, etc etc etc, I know they are material things, but some Skids do not even have a room at the non-custodial parent's house. (Being SD14 hasn't been to our house we have no idea what she likes anymore, so it is not the same with her, once she hit the teen years she started her own life, so to speak with friends, sleepovers, etc...) If SD needs something extra we would get it with no question because we love SD very much and have no problem providing for her. It is just the fact that I guess it feels like sometimes we are taken advantage of being we do everything we can and do what we feel is right for SD but BM acts like an emo and is still on a rollercoaster. DO WE NEED TO BE DEAD BEAT PARENTS ON OUR END??? WOULD THAT MAKE BM FEEL BETTER??? TO HAVE SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT AND TO BE ABLE TO SAY HOW CRAPPY WE ARE??? I know it would not make me feel better to not receive the child support and it wouldn't make me feel better for BS to not have insurance. I have no problem saying my BS has a dad who provides for him and that he has an awesome Stepmom that provides for him. Without her job he wouldn't have the EXCELLENT insurance that he has. COME ON BM'S GET A LIFE AND GIVE THE DH'S AND STEPMOM'S A BREAK IF THEY ARE DOING WHAT THEY ARE SUPPOSE TO BE DOING!!!