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EMAIL FROM BM#2

mommommom's picture

Well first thing this morning I receive 2 emails from BM#2. It was sent at 6:30, so I know I am the first thing on her mind when she wakes up. LOL! :sick: Anyway, BM#2 waits until SD4 is extremely sick before taking her to the doctor. Last year waited until SD had pneumonia and ended up in the hospital when we told her for over a month to get SD into the doctor. It's just ridiculous. The emails this morning state that SD is on cough med, 2 antibiotics and vapor rub at night. Ok. Med is not the issue. The issue is that SD hates the over the counter cough med that BM has bought. It is a very strong med and I even hate it. BM says SD has an issue with the vicks too. Well, of course she does she is only 4 and that stuff doesn't smell too pleasant. The problem is the email is not friendly, it is demanding. This EMO is 10 years younger than me and has hardly ever taken care of SD, it has been myself or BM's mother taking care of SD. My son is a healthy pre-teen and anytime he was sick he was at the doctor. I didn't wait until he was so sick that he couldn't walk to take him, like BM does with SD. DH says I need to email her back and let her know that it only takes common sense and that I know everything she is demanding in her emails, but I want to just say will-do and leave it alone. I hate drama and BM waits on an ill response so she can send something else stupid back to me or DH. I am just over the fact that I receive the demanding emails when I know how crappy she has treated SD. Honestly, if my BS hated and I mean absolutely hated the over the counter cough med that I bought I would get him something else. The kid is already sick, why make them feel like they need to throw up on top of everything else? Just had to vent!

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doingthebestIcan's picture

I think your right in thinking you just say "ok" to the email rather than trying to get in her face about it. It will only cause more problems. I have finally turned that same corner dealing with the bm of my ss5. It's just not worth carrying the anger around. Let them carry the burden of the drama on their shoulders. Hope you sd gets better soon!

mommommom's picture

Thanks! I haven't emailed her back yet and may just leave it alone all together and not respond at all. DH is just sick and tired of BM's childish, snide remarks and for her to fake she is mommy of the year, when we all know that she's not and never has been just makes him mad.

wishful thinking's picture

I know how you feel.sometimes you wonder how the kids survive.not everyone has a good mom.maybe that's why we do what we do for them.If not for us then what?is it worth it? not sure,I hope so.As they say ,let no good deed go unpunished

stepoff's picture

Aw, the poor little girl. Get her some bubble-gum tasting cough medicine, tuck her into a warm blanket, and let her watch her favorite cartoon. Why does BM wait so freaking long to go to the doctor? Does she have insurance?

mommommom's picture

BM does have insurance. With a $5.00 co-pay. Believe me we reimburse our 1/2 of that $5.00. I have come to the conclusion that BM is either lazy or resents SD in some, way, shape or form. I know that sounds terrible, but I think there is a wedge there which makes her care about SD but not care until she really has to. Does that make sense?

stepoff's picture

Makes total sense. She'll get SD to the doctor just before BM runs the risk of being accused of child neglect/endangerment. Maybe DH could call SD every 2nd day and ask her how she's feeling. If she says that she's sick, DH can either have BM take her to the doc, or even take her himself?