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Down and out today and sick of it all

mommommom's picture

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I am so over the situations that arise! Had a good time on Halloween with BS12 and SD4. But, the Immature Emo that BM#2 is, always making comments to SD4 about us or BM putting SD on a guilt trip is annoying. Well, I pick SD up Friday, BM didn't ask me to email pics of Halloween but instead tells SD4 to take lots of pics and make sure to send them to her. Hmmm... I have always emailed that emotional trainwreck pics, which she gets jealous over if SD looks like she is having too much fun in them. Anyway, I get home and I tell DH that BM is so petty and childish that she can't make a comment for me to email her pics now.... DH says well send her the darkest one that you can and wait 6 months to do that. Jokingly, I said I think I will just say I didn't take them, not send them so I don't have to deal with anything after the fact. Then I said No, I will send them being I would want pics... Well, SD evidently heard us talking. SD goes home and BM asks her if she took pics. SD says yes but I can't tell you because you can't have any. UGH!!! So, of course we get a stupid little text message from BM asking if we told SD to say that. NO we didn't tell her to say that, but she obviously overheard our conversation. I did have SD's pics made professionally in her Halloween costume, which I do for all occasions, but they do have the family in them. DH did tell her we were talking about those pics, which we did makes comments about them being BM would not want a family pic of us in her house... Well, maybe one of her personalities would want the pic who knows.
The whole point is we get ridiculous emails or text messages about the stupidest things, which I guess shows her age, but it is beginning to really get on my nerves! I know we need to make sure and watch what we say around SD, but we never put BM down in front of her or anything such as that, it is just always something petty or stupid.
BM did say she thinks it is ok to be like that, but not include SD in the thoughts. DH responded that we are not like that and it is not ok to be like that.
I try to do the right thing, but you know it just gets harder and harder for me. I want to send a nasty email and tell her to cram the pics up her blankity blank blank, but I know I won't do that being I am trying to be civil. I just can't stand dealing with an immature idiot!

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stepoff's picture

Maybe next time wait till SD is sleeping, or at least out of ear shot. But why is BM asking a 4 yo to be responsible for delivering pictures? BM should be asking you and DH, not a 4yo. By doing this, she's putting SD in the middle and if something goes wrong, SD will be getting blamed. Not fair.

buttercup123's picture

Tell her to take her own pics. When kids are with her she does her thing and when they are with you then you do yours. Limited involvement= less crazy to deal with.

mommommom's picture

Thank you buttercup. I agree with that. We have always tried to be civil and do what was right by SD, but of course BM doesn't offer pics to us being she has her more and even when we ask her about school, well day care pics she never lets us know. We are not asking her to pay for them, just let me know when they will be taken so I can order a pack. OF COURSE NOTHING! I did email the pics yesterday and she did email a thank you, which is odd for her to respond, but I just could not bring myself to email a response back of no problem, etc. I am just over the fact of being nice all the time to BM and her being an immature idiot still. I will be glad when she grows up!!

buttercup123's picture

Is there someone at the school/day care that you can have tell you when pics are taken so you can get some? Don't deal with, or rely on BM for anything. Our idiot BM wouldn't tell us a thing so I had my FH contact the school and now one of the teachers keeps us in the loop. We don't have to rely in BM anymore.