Is BM still not over your BF/FH/DH? Especially 3 years AFTER their divorce??
I need your help, ladies (and from the guys, too please!). Also, if any ladies on here are both BM's & SM's, please chime in also.
Despite the fact that BF & I have been together for over 6 years (living together for 2), there have been some inappropriate comments made by BM (my BF's ex-wife) to the skids (SD15 & SS12) that, LUCKY FOR ME, skids have actually been telling BF & I about!
1. From SD15: "Daddy, when Mommy picked me up from your house yesterday & she saw you outside by the garage, she said "Damn, SD15, your Dad is such a good-looking guy." I think Mommy thinks you're hot, Daddy."
2. From SS12: "Daddy, when Mommy picked us up, she saw you &
Milomom going out to the car, she said "Oh, it looks like Daddy is growing a moustache or a goatee (sp??)...does Milomom say if she likes it or not?"
Some background: my BF was married to BM for 10 years, they had 2 kids together. After the skids were born, BM cheated on my BF during the marriage, stayed out partying all night at clubs or spent all night online on various different websites (vampires, etc...) "role-playing" with strangers, guys, etc..., 5-10 different screennames...you get the idea. Why not? She sat home & didn't work & was "bored" and complained that my BF was "never home" as he worked 2 jobs trying to bust his ass supporting her & their new family! Hello?!? So they agreed to legally & physically separate after 10 years. BF & I met and started dating within a few months of when they legally separated and BM dragged their divorce out for almost 3 more years once she realized that BF fell in love with me and was happy & didn't want to deal with her cheating, lying, unemployed, lazy, weirdo, wicca-worshipping ass anymore.
WOULDN'T THESE COMMENTS BY BM ABOUT YOUR MAN PISS YOU LADIES OFF?? Of course, when the skids said the above things to BF, I was right there, but I didn't react at ALL - I just went about my merry way & let my BF deal with them (I don't believe he gave any reaction to them, other than just laughing...which is always what BF & I do, LAUGH at BM). I never let the skids see ANY reaction from me - and trust me, I do this because I wouldn't give BM the satisfaction of showing that her comments affect me whatsoever. Who knows, maybe she's putting the skids UP to this?!? I feel so stuck in high school when I have to deal with this stuff.
Please, please give me your thoughts and what YOUR reactions would be to all of this (and what you would do/say to YOUR BM's if you found out she was saying this about your man). I am really tempted to confront her (she'd probably feel like such an ASS because I highly doubt she actually realizes that the skids would come to us & TELL us what she's saying about my BF) and tell her how totally & completely INAPPROPRIATE her comments are...that, of course, would be AFTER I kicked her ass and told her that HE'S MINE, SHE'LL NEVER GET HIM BACK, GET OVER IT & MOVE ON YOU FAT, UGLY PIECE OF TRASH!! OK, lol, I'm just saying that here with you - I'll never let her see me sweat.