What should I do??
I am wondering what i should do. It seems like i care more for my sd6 then my husband does sometimes. Like his item of spending time with the child is watching TV, which i don't approve of cuz the tv is not a babysitter and your not spending time with the child. With everything that is going on with the BM and not having a good relationship with the child i really wonder what I should be leaning towards continueing to have a relationship with the child or stop trying to be so close with the SD6. I have my own child on the way and i really don't want to play favorites but i have a feeling it's going to happen. I'm very confused on what i should do and how i should explain this to my husband. Usually I can't wait to spend time with my SD6, but this visit i was not looking forward to the visit at all, and that kinda hurts.
Please help me out, i'll take all advise!!!
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I had to respond. I felt the
I had to respond. I felt the same way. SD is about to turn 4 and I was the only one to ever get on the floor and play dolls or read a book or color etc.. FDH always was on his laptop and SD sat next to him and stared at him or watched barney. I finally spoke up. I said flat out that she is not here to watch you sit on the computer.
We finally moved and theres an office now so he cant watch tv and be on the computer at the same time. Shes still 'up his butt' like a lot of the other posters talk about. He cant leave the room with her asking where hes going. He just cant seem to get on her level and play.
I finally stepped back a little and stopped helping her with dressing and pottying. I have my own BS(7 months) now and I cant care for his child and ours while he watches tv.
You will play favorites. Youve heard the 'love them like theyre mine' but really after you have that VERY special connection with your own baby, it IS very different and that is ok. Ive had this same conversation with my FDH, if their BM sucks thats not your fault. I felt a lot of emotion. I was really upset that I dont love them the same, although I dont have to, I felt really bad about it.
Its sure a tough situation, hes the one with 2 kids, not you. Im still in shock about the amount of work that SM's put in on this forum. Dads need to step it up. Good luck, I hope things improve!
Thanks for the rely. Glad to
Thanks for the rely. Glad to know that someone eles out there feels the way i do. It's a real shame that our courtry has so many problems with child and our court system seems to just care about the money and not what's best for the children.