The past year my SS 13 who we see on the weekends has been trying to disengage himself from us. Recently it has gotten very bad. Of course we have rules and his mom doesn't have rules. We have had major issues with him being disrecpectful to us when he is at his mom's house. He will not return phone calls or sends rude texts. She won't return phone calls as well. He came home this past weekend stating he no longer has a good relationship with his dad, he wants to be at her house more..., and thinks his dad does not satisfied with him! My husband is an incredible father who supports him in every way. We tell him all the time how proud we are of him!

Where is this coming from? I don't get it! We are trying to start a few therapy sessions for SS and DH to work out these feelings. We have joint legal custody but it is gray about whether we can start a session with out BM approval. I understand she needs to know, but I don't think she will approve.

How do we stop this disengaging behavior? We both feel he is not getting these ideas by himself. Is this normal for BM to encourage child to have a poor relationship with father? What can we do?