Name Battle - Cont.
FDH and I are not speaking to eachother; he's set that I'm ruining our wedding and marriage experience by not taking his name at all; and I can't get past how he is so disrespectful and can disregard my feelings so much to not see how this is affecting me.
I went to the gym last night and SO's SD19 asked to come with me so she could "train for the army". I'm not mean by nature so I said whatever, sure. I completely ignore her know-it-all attitude now and just "yes" her death when she wants to talk like she's been going to the gym for years (she's been going for 2-3 weeks with from friends from school and that apparently made me stupid and her the gym genius). Whatever... Halfway through I was starting to think..well, perhaps having the same name could be like a bonding thing for us.. The 2 "LOLA383 FDH's"...
Then we came home and she's chatting about boys and whatnot and how she told her friends she's changing her name; so, I mentioned to her.."SD19..you know we're going to have the same exact name, right?" In the SNOTTIEST attitude so says, "So. We have different middle names"..OMG she is a complete selfish bitch. So that threw all notions of "bonding" out the effing window for me. My mother talked to my aunt about this and even my aunt thinks its weird, like why does she have to do this so close to my wedding. Not to mention in her chat about boys, she's like, " and if I marry this guy- then my initials will be "POS" again!" -so ok SD19...you're going through all this now just to change it again when you get married. Awesome. and the point of making a massive adjustment as changing your name is because...? OH! DUH..you want FDH's name on your army uniform...Totally can see how this is all needed. :sick:
I'm trying SOOOO hard to think about other things, and come up with a way of changing my name so that I can take FDH's name but still be seperate from SD19.. It just pisses me off. She's totally robbing me of my right to take my husbands name. But oh ya..did I mention that she is the sun and we all revolve around her? Princess SD19 is the center of the universe