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July 27

LoftyDreams's picture

My car is at the dealer. If it wasn't I would have left by now. I thought about getting up early in the morning, but it's a 3 hour walk. I started to ride a bike after my husband left for work. But there isn't enough air in the tires making it too difficult for me to ride 10 miles.

I called 3 taxi services and no one is 'in the area' at the moment. Maybe after lunch they said.

Yesterday, we had a blowout that shouldn't have been.

Apparently/Supposedly he told his son to go outside for a walk. His 15 year-old son left the house without telling me. Since, I am the guardian at home, I want to know the whereabouts of the person I'm supposed to be watching. I think that's reasonable. After the child returned, I told him If his Dad isn't home let me know you are leaving until you turn 18. 

My husband walks in the door, after work and asks if his son is home , I was doing something else, but looked back at my husband 'wrong'.

We get into an argument about his son not telling me he is leaving. My husband said to me "I told him not to talk to you." I heard those words explicitly. Later in the evening he tries to backtrack telling me that he told him not to talk to me while I was at work. . . Comments such as well how many Mommies does he have or people does he need to report to? His mother, grandmother, me. I said I don't know how many of these people are actually HERE. Who's house does he live at? Who is the first person the police are going to talk to if he goes missing? The people who don't live in this state or ME.

After we had that mini argument, I left the house and went for a walk and talked to my Mom for 90 minutes.

We then get into an argument about this school transportation situation. My husband asked me if I would be able to take him to this school (no transporation). Initially I said yes, Now I am saying no, because this child doesn't seem like he wants to put in the effort and I am not going to spend my time, gas, life dropping off/picking up someone who isn't going to put in effort. This will be a minimum of an hour daily commute somewhere during peak traffic times.

As we are arguing, I am trying to stay calm. TRYING. I leave the room we are in because I want to go to sleep. I have cooked, cleaned, dealt with my daughter and attended work today. It's after 11:30p. He follows me around, he harasses me.

We try to talk, I tell him we are getting divorced. I am 35 I don't want to spend the rest of my life being told what I do is worthless. This situation with is son his not the issue; the issue is with you HUSBAND.

This morning, I tried to say nothing to him because I don't want to talk to him anymore. I didn't want to distract him because it's always my fault he can't concentrate. He wanted to know if what I said last night still stood, I tried to lie and tell him no, it doesn't, and he started to go on and on about a proper apology. He told me he wanted to do some overtime last night but he couldn't because of something I did. . .I said to him you were on your phone around 9:30p, you could have logged into your laptop to do overtime then. Stop blaming me for everything. You choose to play on your phone versus signing into your laptop. I walked out the room and he lunged after me, knocking over a table, but didn't touch me. He just started yelling calling me a stupid bitch, hoe ass bitch, lying bitch, etc. He yelled in an attempt to wake up his son to tell him to not talk to (me). He actually screamed '[Son's name] don't talk to this hoe ass bitch'.

I ask to get the car seat out of his car, he drives off without giving it to me only to realize that he forgot his laptop for work. He thrws the car seat on the living room floor. And calls ME a stupid ass because I 'made' him forget his laptop. . .

He ext and calls this morning while driving to work. Eventually I block his numbers so I can't receive texts or calls.I'm done. If I don't get my car today, I will get it tomorrow morning and I am going to my parents house.

Comments

Aniki-Moderator's picture

What about Uber? Is there a friend or relative who can and pick you up? At this point, I would even contact a shelter and ask them to come and get me. 

CLove's picture

Im glad you are posting and ready to leave.

Im sorry you are going through this.

Please get out as soon as you can!!!

Try to be sneakier, though, he will get violent if you tell him you are leaving.

Get a temp restraining order too. Please.

ETexasMom's picture

Call your local Domestic Violence crisis center and see if they can provide transportation. This is 100% verbal, emotional, and physical abuse. It will continue to escalate. But don't be fooled if he tries to "love bomb" you nexti. Please check out https://www.thehotline.org/ for domestic violence resources and someone to talk too. 

Esperanza's picture

I'm glad you are leaving, please leave ASAP and never return, be happy and free.

Wicked stepmo.'s picture

Wow, first off you should never tolerate anyone speaking to you that way for any reason. 

This man is abusive and is trying to teach his son to be the same way. This is a very unsafe place for you and your daughter. Get out of there as soon as you can.

When you do, don't come back without a police escort to get your belongings. 

Esperanza's picture

Hi OP, I was wondering if you could update us on your situation ? Did you manage to get out?

wherever you are I hope you are safe