Of course I have started washing dishes again.

This morning, after a skillet with food had been left out for two days, my husband complains that 'I don't wash large pans". Nevermind that I have washed everything but the little plates his son uses. He tells me he didn't ask for the food I cooked, even though he ate it more than once and gave it to his son. He said he shouldn't have to put the food away because it isn't something he asked for. He can give me a list of food he would like. . .

One day my husband told me that his son doesn't put away the dishes in the dishwasher because he knows he didn't use the dishes. I know I don't use all the dishes I wash or put away. I know I buy more food than I eat because I buy for the entire house, I pay for more water, electricity, internet, additional bedrooms, gas in my car, paper towels, toilet paper than I use because I live in a HOUSEHOLD. Members of the household are SUPPOSED to contribute to the HOUSEHOLD.

He is living in this fantasy land and I am soo soo fed up. Children of divorced parents shouldn't clean up after themselves because their parents are divorced or because there is specifically something wrong with my husband? I believe it's the later.

I don't understand why he doesn't think he doesn't need to contribute. Why is it NEVER his responsibilty to clean anything. WHY?

He had complained about these glasses he and his son like that had a logo on them. Well since they don't wash, I was using the dishwasher and I guess after a year or so of using the dishwasher the logo on the glasses has washed off. As it was happening my husband was like these glasses need to be washed by hand and I said okay, they yall make sure to wash them. Of course they weren't washed and now the logos are gone and two glasses have chipped on the base and were thrown away. My husband makes some snide remark that it's interesting my glasses haven't broken even though they are completely different styles. I'm not breaking the glasses on purpose, but maybe wash your own dishes and you will see for yourself.

The day before Mother's Day, my stepson comes out to help get groceries from the car. Some neighborhood kids call his name. My stepson says". . . like they don't see me with my Mom helping to get groceries. I am going to pretend I forgot to go hang out with them. . ." You mean pretend like you pretend to forget to wash your face, brush you teeth, fold your clothes, unload the dishwaser, do homework, not get your phone. . . I told his father. He had a little talk with him later, but I doubt it will do much of anything.

Mother's Day

My husband says something to me about reminding his son to call his Mom for Mother's Day. My husband calls his mother and wishes her Happy Mother's Day. Then he tells me we don't celebrate Mother's Day because it's a pagan holiday. We don't celebrate Mother's Day because every day he treats me like it's Mother's Day. . .

Then he goes on to tell his son there are 3 times a year that a woman would like to be recongnized; her birthday, mother's day, and I didn't hear the last day.

This is going to end when I say it ends. Honestly, I think he knows what he is doing and wants me to file or bow down. He told me that he wanted a 'traditional' family/relationship where I basically clean up after him and I told him, well if you want it traditional, I don't want to work and I am accustomed to this current level of income. Somedays I wish he would just leave and never return. I rationalize to myself that I want my daughter to have her father, but there are disadvantages to every choice.