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can i bitch about my selfish dh for a moment?

lmdavi0's picture

this has nothing really to do with sd10 because we haven't seen her in almost a month, but i didn't really have another place to vent about how selfish and DUMB my dh can be sometimes. we don't have kids (sd every other weekend) and lately he's been on this 'new friend' kick with some of his server buddies. that's great, except whenever he goes out with them, he is totally irresponsible, not calling and not checking his phone. (i've been with him for 8 years and believe it or not, he has always done this!) so we had a long talk about how he needs to be more responsible and that it's not fun calling hospitals and jails at 4 in the morning! so now we've been going out with some of his friends, and i like them, but he is so wrapped up in everything new that he always leaves me alone to fend for myself. i'll be sitting at the bar by myself and he'll be running around, talking, playing pool, having fun. wtf? i am an attractive girl and i know that he loves me but why does he treat me like an old shoe sometimes? he is a virgo and yes he LOVES attention, but so do i! so you can see the dilemma here. i was thinking i should just step back and not go out with him. that way he can do what he wants and i can stop feeling like i'm up his ass, you know? we are trying to conceive and i know that things will change considerably when we do, and maybe that will fill this void that i feel. ladies, am i alone here in dealing with a selfish/egocentric man? don't get me wrong, i love him, he loves me, and most of the time he is much better at showing me affection, attention, etc. is it just the cycle we are in? you know, the moon crossing jupiter and all that jazz?
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evilsm's picture

go out with some of your friends? My DH is not really the type of guy to hang out with his friends with or without me but I am more social. He gets upset with me for the same reasons you are upset with your DH (I don't stay out that late) but I know that I would be happy if he decided to go hang with his friends for a while without me. Just a thought.

happy's picture

My husband & I are different. I am the social butterfly and he is the quiet one. We do mostly everything together. Except on occasion where he goes fishing with friends, and then I go out with friends, when this happens, we are both ok. Now when we are out together, because he sits and watches the band, and I dance, I make sure that I am with him and by his side when I am not kicking up my heels.. With your husband, I am not even sure he knows what he is doing! Let him know and maybe try to go with your friends or have some of your friends come meet all of you that way you are together but at the same time both having fun.. I can understand though..

Happy

" make sure you tell the people you love most EVERYDAY.. Its important not only for them to know but for you to tell.. Life is to short to be miserable..

lmdavi0's picture

you are both right. it's so weird how we change throughout our relationships. sometimes i'm this independent, i-don't-need-anyone type then the next moment i'm starving for attention...it's a strange world we live in.
but i appreciate your help and i will definitely be sure to invite MY friends along too so that we can all have fun!!!
happy mother's day!!!!