Taking Bets: Will DH actually say no???
I'm inclined to think he will say no because of how disappointed he is in YSS right now.
As I mentioned on the last episode of As The Stepmom's Head Turns, YSS is failing 3 classes, mostly because of missing assignments. So, it's not an issue of not understanding. It's an issue of not doing the work. And if it is an issue of not understanding, he hasn't mentioned it to any of us.
Anyway, he gives DH an envelope yesterday saying, "oh yeah, I need to give this to you". Mind you, the only reason he did this is because the envelope fell out of his bag and OSS reminded him to give it to DH.
What is in the magical envelope? Why, information about a school trip to Washington, DC, of course!
Guess when the deposit was due? If you guessed "two weeks before Christmas", you'd be correct. DH vaguely remembers BM mentioning something about the trip in early December, but as YSS nor BM have mentioned it AT ALL in two months, DH forgot about it.
So, DH asks YSS why he wants to go. YSS says he just wants to go. Note that he's answering while his eyes are GLUED to YouTube. DH asks why he thinks he should get to go with failing grades. YSS squirms a bit, says he doesn't know but wants to go.
So I look at the packet. Price is $1,100. NOPE. Not a snowball's chance in Hades that we're paying fully for this. We're already fully paying for OSS's trip to Disney World with his band (which he has more than earned and has done fundraising through school for). The ONLY way I'd even halfway entertain US (yes, us; haven't separated finances since DH has been adhering to the "not buying sh*t last minute" thing) paying for this trip is if BM paid half AND YSS turned in every assignment, including the missing ones, even if he got no credit for it.
So DH drops them off last night and immediately gets a text from BM saying she has talked to the sponsoring teacher and, even though it's 2 MONTHS past the deadline to sign up, she will still allow YSS to sign up.
I asked DH what his thoughts were.
His thoughts were that he wasn't going to spend $1,100 to send YSS on a trip that he isn't that interested in, especially while he is failing his classes.
I want to believe that DH will stick to that. However, my fear is that BM, MIL, and GBM will pool their money to pay the deposit and guilt DH into sending YSS. They'll throw out that OSS got to go, it's a once in a lifetime opportunity, etc.
First, OSS got to go because he got good grades and helped raise funds for the trip. And he asked nearly immediately about going. Second, for about double the price, all four of us could go to DC as a family vacation, so it's not "once in a lifetime". Third, IF YOU WANT HIM TO GO THAT BADLY, YOU F**KING PAY FOR IT.
I'll keep y'all posted on how this unfolds, but I'm taking bets.