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MIL meddling again...

lieutenant_dad's picture

Shocking, I know.

I am out of town for a work thing; I have been out of town all week. Last night, I (stupidly) answered a phone call thinking it was someone I work with asking about after dinner plans.

Nope. It's MIL.

First question is why DH won't answer her calls. No idea MIL, but I'll let him know you called when I talk to him later since I am out of town.

Half a million questions later about why I was out of town, she drops bomb #2.

OSS got a letter for a letter jacket. Did the school inform DH? Nope. Did OSS? Nope. Did BM? Nope. I found out on Facebook on Friday and told DH.

However, BM told MIL and even invited her to the ceremony that was Wednesday. So BM, GBM, and MIL go to the ceremony. At the end, they hand out the paperwork on the letter jackets. None of the 3 of them have the $75 for the deposit, so MIL took the paperwork to bring it to DH this weekend (great way for her to weasel into my house).

I was blunt. I told her no one, school nor BM, told DH about the awards. She went quiet.

Then she says she went to the church program where the boys performed on Sunday. I said we weren't invited. She goes quiet and makes the excuse that BM didn't tell DH because he wouldn't have gone. I told her we went the last few year's. Oh. Quiet again.

THEN she asks why I didn't go to the same church's tea and cookie thing with her, BM, and GBM. I mean, BM invited me, dontchaknow? I told MIL I NEVER got an invite from BM (not that I would have gone). Quiet again.

When I finally got her off the phone, I called DH and told him to handle it. I'm done being nice. BM is back to outright lying, she's dragging MIL into it, and I'm checking out. I have too much other stuff going on to deal with this. If DH wants me to be around and involved, he better check everyone or I will. I'm getting more vocal, and I refuse to be quiet in the future.

I. Am. DONE.

Comments

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

Good. For. You.

Seriously though. MIL is just causing drama.... Obviously your Dh cares about his kids, he would go if he had known... Maybe your MIL will hit some reality? But probably not. I'm glad you're havng your DH handle it... That's what I do when MIL acts mental too...

lieutenant_dad's picture

She got a new number and I forgot to update it. It was later in the evening (at a time I would consider it rude to call someone without prior permission), and I really did think it was a colleague asking if I wanted to go with a group to wind down. I should have hung up. Never again.

Cooooookies's picture

I've found that keeping quiet just lets the circus continue around you.  I don't keep quiet anymore either but I let DH handle the crazy.  Then just sit back and shake my head.  Good for you OP!

Exjuliemccoy's picture

Im so angry for both you and your DH. That woman! 

So it's okay to exclude DH from skid activities, but BM and his so-called mother still want him to pick up the tab for the letter jacket deposit??? Screw that, and I'd be telling everyone including the skids why.

 Those boys are old enough to be held accountable for excluding their dad and you. It's a teaching opportunity on the topic of integrity. I hope your DH goes on the warpath and holds everyone  accountable: BM, his treacherous mother, the school, and the skids. 'Cause nice sure ain't working for him.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Lt Dad, you're much more patient that I am. I would have using being out of town as THE excuse to nip that unwanted call in the bud.

"Sorry I can't talk, MIL, but I'm in the middle of work. I'll tell DH you called. Take care." ~ click~

STaround's picture

about not being invited and then being asked to pay for jacket.  I would give the kid one more chance, but tell him, he has to let me know about these events, otherwise not to expect any extras.  I would also talk to the school about failure to notify.

GL -- and congrats to the kid.