Am i making this bigger then it is?
Ok I'll start off with short story fist my 2 SD have been telling lies making me and my DH look bad to his EX and her family and friends. She took DH to court got primary of the kids now we don't see them much and when we do problems, so I don't like problems so it kinda works out. Well my father in law asked my DH to help him move which is fine no big thing hate that my hubby's gone from me but his dad needs help. He lives 2 hrs from us the same town my SD do well he asked BM for the kids that weekend they are moving so my DH can see them thing is they are needing to move not sit around and hang out and my SD don't act like they want to see their dad they don't even call my husband. My DH told his dad the kids are going to be in the way I don't think its a good idea I only have a little bit of time to help you move his dad got upset said why don't you want to see your girls anymore? Never mind I don't need your help to move I'll do it on my own and hangs up on my DH, I feel that people are blaming it all on me which I know its always the step parents fault. I just wish people could stop and think about the BS we go though! Any tips or ideas?
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Court order says one weekend
Court order says one weekend a month last time we saw them was Oct 10ish SD are 6 & 9 they never call like they use to since BM got primary. They don't act like they care anymore to even see their dad. Dad knows whole story just doesn't understand why we don't drop everything to keep them happy.
Why did BM get Primary??
Why did BM get Primary??
BM over the summer got the
BM over the summer got the girls ready for court telling them how much they needed her and that they really didn't want to live with dad also told them I was mean to them when they had to clean up after them self so girls came back talking of how they were going to talk to the judge my DH didn't want to girls to have to go though that so he just said she could have them.
That sucks I hate BM's Like
That sucks I hate BM's Like that. My Friend has two step kids and that started to happen, how ever her DH stood up and he faught for the kids and he also showed the court how much he wanted to be involved and move an hour to were the kids were and now they have almost 50/50 custody.
Most of the time the mediators and the judge cans see right through the kids and see how they are being used by the other parent.
I wish you would have fought harder, but non the less good luck and I hope things will get better. and I hope the girls see how much they have hurt their dad and how their mom has caused that hurt!!
You cannot control what
You cannot control what people think about you. Yes, they are being spiteful and mean. But do you REALLY think telling the other people your side will make it any less so?
I suspect they all get great pleasure out of being rude about you and your DH. It won't change so don't expect it to.
As for your SDs... I don't know how much help a 6 and 9 yr old xan be. However DH should have said to his dad that they would get things done faster if they weren't there but they would all get together to have dinner afterwards.
It sounds like FIL doesn't see the kids half as much as he wants to and was using DH as an excuse to see his grand daughters.
I would be upset as well. DH complains they don't call as much but then is in the same town and he doesn't make an effort to see them?
Have to protect my DH there
Have to protect my DH there any time he has been in the same town and has called his EX even to see if he can take them out to eat BM says its not your weekend or we are busy we don't have time for you. The one time she did let him see them the girls were at dinner saying it was nice just them 3 they were glad I wasn't there (oldest one has told me she doesn't like me)