Strange and scary thought
Those of you with Step sons who have a super controlling GUBM:
What are the chance do you think of them marrying a woman just like BM? After years of shitting on their own dad's, what is the chance they are going to go through the same heartbreak and it won't be until they loose their own children will they understand why their dad fought so hard?
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Our BM is turning SS into her perfect husband
Which means that there's nothing to him uness she tells him there is. No opinions, no independent thought, no personality. Does what he's told without question and desperate for approval.
What's going to be funny is if SS ever finds a woman... BM is likely to *hate* anyone he finds because it will take away from her! Either SS will reject BM at that point or BM will just push everyone away for him.
Norman Bates Syndrome
Appropriately entitled "Psycho"
SO and I have talked about it
SO and I have talked about it more than once, actually. And it's kind of messed up because the boys are young.
SS1 has disturbingly been elevated to man of the house over at BMs. He's not a personality I would get along with anyway but the associated behaviors make me dislike him to a high degree.
SO & I are convinced that if he doesn't escape his leading man role he's going to end up marrying the first girl who pays attention to him, who will inevitably be a selfish hag like BM and walk all over him.
SS2 is such a distant second to SS1 over there that I'm not sure he'll ever escape his brother's shadow. My prediction for him is an unfulfilled heartbreaker, forever seeking attention, any attention, because all he sees is how SS1 is exalted.
Hopefully we are completely wrong. But I'd be a liar if I didn't dread the teens, and eventually the adults, these boys will grow in to.
YSS stb 16
is already having girlfriend problems and SD stb 20 has burned through as many boyfriends. OSS seemed to be the least "mini me" but he always was definitely the Girhippo's protector and defender.
Haha...I cannot wait!
Bm will FINALLY get a taste of her own medicine. And since this will be my daughterinlaw I am free to band with her or ignore and only meet rarely outside my home. Win win win for me!
Of course by then my winning game will have been perfected having endured BMs attacks. DIL will be nothing to take down if I feel inclined!
However I am not yet at the point where I would wish another BMlike creature on SS. DARN there goes my dream!
OY... It really breaks my
OY... It really breaks my heart to know that so many boys are going to become such crappy husbands thanks to BM's around the world. It makes me sad for them and makes me sad for my daughter. That is her dating pool. Once she is older we may have to talk about all of this, so she makes sure to meet his mother and father and if they are divorced get that back story from both of them and sort her own truth from it.
GUBMs and Disney Husbands
GUBMs and Disney Husbands breed GUBMs and Disney Husbands. They don't spawn out of nowhere.
I think OSS will marry whoever he wants, but I worry that he'll always feel like he has to take care of BM. My hope is that BM acts like GBM and OSS finally cuts that dependence tie to her. He's too much like DH to put up with it long-term, but he'll put up with it for too long. He would make a good and devoted husband, but there will be MIL conflict.
YSS...ugh. He is VERY absent-minded and thrives on BM babying him. He'll either never launch romantically or he'll marry someone who treats him like BM does. He'll also likely Gey divorced because no woman will want to put up with it, and I doubt YSS would put in the effort to change.
SS treats partners like BM
SS treats partners like BM treats her partners. Treats them like crap and they are disposable. He's had one really nice girlfriend for probably 6 months now but he treats her like crap and laughs about it. DH just raised his eyebrows at me and said after SS left, "Well, he's probably going to F that one up, too."
SS once asked me and DH why
SS once asked me and DH why we do so much together. We told him that this time, we are doing things right and we are best friends. I mean, who else would you want to spend your time with? If SS takes nothing else from our home, I hope that he sees that me and his dad are best friends and love and respect eachother fully and openly. We never put eachother down. We always have eachother's back. We also always sit by eachother. Kids don't come physically in between us. We will make them move if they try. I see that kind of thing being a big source of irritation on this site.
OSD was always fascinated
OSD was always fascinated that DH and I don't fight. The funny thing is, we do, but only over email with distance between us. It gives me the chance to fully think about what I want to say without saying extremley hurtful things (which I have done in past relationships and once or twice to DH. I told him to get his balls out of BM's purse one time, lol.) We have found this very effective for us and almost always it's resolved in a few emails.
It's funny, I just noted to DH last night, (SS was over with his stepbrother on his mom's side) and I said, it's so weird, if you didn't know it, you'd think that BM was not married. We never see her husband. She never does anything with him. I know she only married him because she thought it would get her full custody and it totally backfired. BM's stepkids tell their biomom that BM and their father never speak. It's just so weird to me!