I have to brag for a second!
With all the turmoil that SS14 brings in our lives - through very little fault of his own, it was so nice to have the flip side of solid and supportive co-parenting last night!
I told my ExH and his wife about my upcoming surgery late last week. I just wanted them to be in the know since our kids are with them (3,000 miles away) for the summer. Just in case I wound up in the hospital longer or during the first week or so, being able to reassure the kids that I am ok if I look out of it on facetime...and maybe don't call mom 27 times a day the first couple of days just because I am not at work lol.
Well, today in the mail was a package containing a super soft night gown and a card about being "One tough cookie". Little encouraging notes from my kids and their SM. Talk about making me bawl! She even threw in a little gift card to Domino's saying that she was sorry she couldn't send a dinner over so she hopes this helps with DH's "cooking".
Y'all... This is how it supposed to be. I don't have to worry about my kids while I deal with healing. There is 0 drama. I feel supported and loved by my co-parents. We always look out for each other, and support and are flexible and communicate. We don't always agree but we always show respect.
I just wanted to let someone out there know that it isn't impossible and me and my exH weren't always this great. When we first split it was really nasty for like 2 years! However, one day we both said look, this is ridiculous. We both want what's best for our kids, right? We both want to be involved and active parents, right? So let figure it out. And we did.
(Disclaimer: You can't work with people with true personality disorders! I have tried so hard with BM2 it isn't even funny!)