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justmakingthebest's picture

Well, in my attempts to fire our lawyer this morning, we find out that BM's attorney filed a motion to modify custody the day before we did. She gives no details but claims that SS is in danger with us and she should have sole custody and no visitation with us.

We obviously did not fire our lawyer. He believes that this is a result in us taking SS to the genetics clinic to prove that SS does not have Elhors-Danlos. 

We are filing a response to show all of the alienation, refusal to share medical information, the shut off of SS's cell phone from our account that we were still paying on and transferring to her account and changing his phone number and both of them lying. The fact that SS was not at DH's student lead parent teacher conference. and a few other things. My head is spinning, I am about to throw up... OH! and it's Monday. My craziest day at work where I run payroll, payables, all my job costing and update my proforma! So this will be a rough day!! 

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TrueNorth77's picture

OMG, start saving for those lawyer fees! How can SS be in danger with you when he is NEVER with you??? Does she really think it's in his best interest to have no contact with his father? Does she not consider the ramifications of that? Trust me, my mother was not in my life, and as much as you can "get over it", it's always there. It always affects you. BM should be ashamed of herself.

tog redux's picture

These blogs give me flashbacks to dealing with this crap with my SS's BM.  I'm sorry you have to go through this.  I think it all gave me PTSD.

justmakingthebest's picture

I am physically sick this morning. I am trying to work and have thrown up twice and can't stop crying. I have never ever been accused of anything even remotely resembling putting a child in danger. Plus this child is bigger than me! 

tog redux's picture

I really do feel for you, I went through all that you experience right now.  I was on the verge of leaving my DH if he didn't stop the court action, and fortunately, even his own attorney advised it.  It was beyond hopeless and it was destroying all of us.

If it's any consolation, it's highly unlikely that any court is going to stop all visitation; however, BM is signaling that she will do whatever it takes to cut DH out, and the next thing will be your SS refusing to come for visits, which will mean more court dates, etc.  This is alienation in progress.

After DH stopped court action, he had very little contact with his son for over 3 years. Our court system does not understand parental alienation at all.

ESMOD's picture

Oh.. wow. 

Ok.. deep breath time.  Concentrate on the tasks in front of you. In the end, her accusations could be a real gift to you.  Now is the time to get every bit of her munchhausen syndrome work documented.  In the end... it will probably come out that SHE is the one damaging the child.. not your household.  So, for today... let your DH take the worry on his shoulders.. and you concentrate on your work.  You know she's crazy.. don't let a crazy person's opinion carry any weight in your head.

SteppedOut's picture

She lives in a tiny podunk town. I can only therefore surmise she is not gainfully employed in a high paying job. Does your DH pay so much in CS to allow for costly attorney fees? Perhaps she is from the one rich family in the podunk town? 

justmakingthebest's picture

She doesnt work! She lived off of alimony and CS until May. Now she is just down to CS and lives with her boyfriend. I have no idea how she is paying. BF just works for podunk town doing grounds crap. 

SteppedOut's picture

Weird. Most attorney's don't let you run much of a tab in cases such as these and require escrow funds upfront.

lieutenant_dad's picture

Remember, she isn't actually accusing you of harmful behavior. She is just desperate and looking to stick anything against you to get you all to go away.

This is probably in response to your DH exercising his parental rights (not to be confused with visitation). She thought she got DH good by eviscerating his visitation. She expected him to slink back. Instead, DH stood up and exercised his rights by coming to her town and participating in SS's education and ECAs.

It makes BM look bad, especially if she has spread around town that DH is a deadbeat who doesn't care. It's hard to make that argument when he flies 1000+ miles for parent-teacher conferences and has dinner at the local Pizza Hut with his son.

Basically, DH embarrassed her on her own turf, so she is retaliating. Don't take it personally. She's trying to bully DH, that's it.

advice.only2's picture

I agree with lieutenant, that and the fact that DH was able to get confirmation that SS has a new cell phone number and was not informed DH can take that to court as well.

ItsGrowingOld's picture

Any time you can get away from a crazy person, do it!!!  This woman will not stop until many lives are destroyed.  I know, because I've been through it with my DH and his crazy ex.  Save yourself and your family.  Let her "win".  You deserve peace and happiness in your life.  The kid is already ruined.  Let him figure it all out when he becomes an adult.  That's what my DH did.  His daughters are 23 and 20.  They bothed moved 2 states away from mommy and the 20 year old is going to move to the opposite coast from her!! 

There is no amount of attorny fees that will make this situation better.  The only ones that benefit from the fight are the attorny's.

still learning's picture

You can always ask for attorney's fees since you have to pay to refute these ridiculous charges.  Also what madness to try to take away all of DH's visitation. Some parents are so selfish to the detriment of the child.  

Major Blunder's picture

Hey Just,  I have been reading all day everything that you are going through today and have wanted say something to ease your mind or make you feel better but I can't come up with just the right words but know that you and your DH and SS are in my thoughts and prayers, I hope the day got better for you.

justmakingthebest's picture

Thank you Major! This honestly hurts my husband down to his soul. I hate not being able to do anything to fix this.