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BM and SD18 arrested

just.his.wife's picture

Both for violation of probation/ community control for SD.
Secondary charge of violating the restraining order that they.never.got.modified.
And it is BM's fault they both got arrested!

DH did get a direct deposit from the state to the tune of $6200+ of the $6500 BM's original bail. He immediately cut me a check for half of it! Saying I had been supporting the kids with my salary and it was only fair.

Two days before he got the deposit, BM's brother called. Advising DH he wanted his money back. That he only put it up so that BM could get out of jail and DH better cut him a check as soon as it came in to him. Dude: here is your sign, don't bail losers out of jail for non payment of support and expect your 'bail money' back. DH told him to pound sand and get the cash from BM.

Well apparently BM's brother went to see BM on Friday as she had lied to him and told him that DH would give him the money back. The two get into a verbal arguement and BM proceeds to scream at her brother that she will F*ing kill him, while both are standing on their parents front lawn.

Neighbors called the cops. Hours later we get the boohooing call from sd18 that she and BM got arrested and she didnt KNOW that she could not be around bm and she didnt KNOW that she had to go to school and would DH come bail her out.

Dh advised her both he and her uncle (DH's brother) had told her that she couldnt be around her mom until she went to court to end the RO and the paperwork she read and SIGNED agreeing to community control/service instead of me prosecuting her required all hours worked and that she could NOT miss a day of school without a doctors note.

His exact words to her I forget but it was along the ideas of "How's is that whole 'your an adult now and no one can tell you what to do' working out for you?"

No, he did not bail her out. Refuses to. Said he would be a piss poor father if he didnt let her learn this lesson. So she is still in jail. He did say if she isn't out by this weekend he will go visit her.

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oneoffour's picture

It only gets nuttier, doesn't it?

I love it when they do the "I am an adult ans you can't tell me what to do" speech to have it come back tenfold and bite them.

Well done DH!

LRP75's picture

exBIL bailed her out on the belief that he would get the money back from your DH???? HOLY CRAP!!! That's a really expensive lesson to learn right there. Wow...

The whole situation is a nightmare.

I'm really glad your DH didn't bail SD out. His reasoning is spot-on. She is really going to have to figure out a way to get it together or she is going to ruin her whole life.

I'm happy your DH cut you a check! That is AWESOME!! Are you still planning the family trip?

just.his.wife's picture

Definately still planning the trip! The younger three skids are producing all A's and B's to ensure they get to go!

DH did the monopoly money with them and these kids took it an extra "step". Agreed that mess ups= $5 getting handed back to dad, but, if they do extra chores, help out more around the house, then they should get monopoly money handed to them, and IF they end up with more money at the end than they started with, they get that in cash to spend while on vacation.

So they came up with a way ensure they didnt spend whatever $ they made towards vacation essentially. ysd is trying to drama the cruise idea that she is scared of boats because "I saw jaws". DH did not fall for it and told her she could just stay home and the rest of us would go: end drama lol. Definately called her bluff!

LRP75's picture

HAHAHA!

In all fairness to SD, I'm terrified of water/boats in part because I saw Jaws!!! It's a residual fear left-over from my childhood. I also almost drowned a few times, which confounded the fear. I have an older brother that thought my fear from watching Jaws was an opportunity for him to torture me and who thought he was simply hilarious when he would swim up behind me, pull me under, and hold me there - like a shark attack. I also really almost drowned one time for real getting out of a canoe and getting swept up in a current that took me under some logs. For these reasons, I don't think I could do a cruise.

I digress though and am really happy to hear that things are falling into place for the younger kids! maybe there is hope for them yet!!!! Biggrin

just.his.wife's picture

Oh I agree SD18 asked for it, got it and it was not a Toyota Wink

However it was BM screaming, cussing and threatening to kill her brother on the front lawn of her parents house, which is in a 55 and up community that got the cops called over there to begin with.

just.his.wife's picture

Oh absolutely LOL

Definately not arguing that point at all. SD18 made her bed, she can lay in it. She was warned, she knew what she had to do and what she could not do and now is her chance to learn the law does NOT care if she is cute, pouts, cries or whines: they don't care if says "she didnt know" no excuses accepted.

She wants to be an adult, she gets to reap all the "rewards" of her adult decisions.

just.his.wife's picture

Oh thats easy: pull up the Sheriff's web site, enter her name, and her latest mug shot pops up, with her latest booking sheet. Then links to ALL of the prior booking sheets for prior arrests that she has had. I don't have to keep count. The county is doing it for me.

just.his.wife's picture

No he didn't. He did however put $7 in her commisary account. Enough for toothbrush, toothpaste, a comb and a box of tampons.

No extra for snacks etc. Bare essentials. And he advised her since she was an adult: he did not have to do that!

herewegoagain's picture

That's great...it'll give the little snot something to think about as she realizes how much she expected financially from your DH and how much things actually cost...lol

just.his.wife's picture

Ripley I just don't have enough time or imagination to make this crap up.

If I could have written the script for this soap opera I am living I would have started about 19 years ago: and interupted BM and DH from ever meeting! I can guarantee you I would have shot him or her before he ever had Mr Winky meet Ms Nasty.