I apologize in advance for this vent/rant.
I'm 24 years old and I'm married to my DW with two skids (4 and 5). I feel often like some of the nice things about life that I completely took for granted when I was single or with someone that didn't have children have completely gone away and won't come back for a long time.
Getting to spend time at the weekends with the person you're with. In our case, that = making sure the kids don't break anything, leave bodily fluids all over the house, scream at the top of their lungs in the store, house, car, bathe, constantly clean after etc etc. It's like the idea of getting to spend consistent peaceful, enjoyable time with my DW is never going to happen. Over the past year we've had only ONE time I can remember where we've been able to actually enjoy each others company..and that was on our anniversary. Once a year, really?. I've tried the idea of babysitters before but with the kids being so young, their mom would be hard pressed to leave them alone for more than just a day or two.
Getting to Shop. I like being able to go shopping, even if you're not buying anything. It's nice getting to see some of the things your DW likes, show her some of the things you like, maybe grab a coffee and one or two things then come home. Instead, as I mentioned above..our shopping trips are basically both the skids screaming their heads off. You can spend no more than 2-3 minutes a section unless its filled with toys and it's like these tiny, simple pleasures in life are gone.
The kids seem to always always come first. If I get off work early, it's probably going to mean watching them or making sure they've got tons to do, eat and lots of cleaning supplies around in case I need to clean up after them and I can't take my eyes off them for a second or they'll break something. Couple that with their mom making me watch them any time she wants a nap and I quickly end up feeling like a 40 year old with no life.
I love DW..but this just sucks.
I'm sure some of this is what its like when you've got your own children and in a way that makes it easier to bare, but I'm a step-father that just happened to fall in love with a woman than had kids. I wasn't told it was going to be like this..