My DW had two small kids when we first met and they're now both 4 and 6. Through time, as in every relationship small things have changed, but one thing has remained pretty consistent - she complains.. a lot. I'm not talking about the regular things like someone getting on nerves at work (everyone can understand that stuff), but more so things like this..

She'll complain all the time about her other family members (eg. brothers, mom) being able to sleep all day where they live whilst she can't (to which I say 'I'm sorry honey, maybe the kids can get to bed earlier'), but to which I'm really thinking (Dude..you decided to have two kids. Thats got a given that you had to give some things up. Deal with it - you're a mom).

Similarly, half the time she'll complain about her (single, childless) friends wanting to hang out with their other (single, childless friends) rather than her and will get to the point where she can spend up to half a day just reeling about it. (again, I'd say something calm and husbandly here like they're not worth your stress and maybe find some other moms to be friends with), but again, I'm really thinking..why can't she understand that she made a decision to become a mom at some point and that she can't be upset at the world for enjoying their lives a little just because they don't have the same responsibilities.

I can fully understand that mom's can sometimes feel like they don't get enough of their old lives but in my case, I wish my DW would quit complaining about the world and just try focusing on the good things in her life.

For anyone wondering, yes..I have watched the kids on many occasions so she could sleep for 3/4 of the day, but thats stopped over the past few months. I wish she would just complain less, you know?.

Anyone else go through something like this?