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Adjusting to single living again...

AlreadyGone's picture

It's been a few months now since I walked out of hell, lol. At first I thought I might break and go back but, it turns out that I'm a lot stronger than I ever imagined. I won't lie, it's been an adjustment for me.

I love to cook and re-learning how to shop and cook for one has been one of the most difficult things for me. I eat ALOT of leftovers now, Wink . Then I realize that I'm actually saving money so I feel better about it, lol.

Sleeping alone was an easy fix... I adopted a pup from a local rescue. He doesn't steal the blankets or snore, so that's a plus in my book Smile . We go to the local obedience club and have met many wonderful people. Even a few single (and yes, CHILDLESS) men. No dates for me though. Just not ready for that right now. Here's something ironic for you, I ran into my XH and one of the SK's while I was walking my new bestie. As soon as they saw us, they immediately tried to pet my friend. They didn't get 3 feet from us, when he let out this big boy bark as if to say... STAY AWAY! It worked, they turned and walked away without even a simple hello. XH looked a bit on the haggardly side. I almost felt sorry for him... almost.
Anyway, that dog must have known what kind of people they are b/c he usually loves everyone. They say, animals can sense evil.... it must be true, lol. }:) XH called 2 days later and left me a VM (I don't take his calls) telling me that it was nice to see me doing well and that single life seems to agree with me. He said he was glad I had a good protector. He even asked if we might ever get past all of the ugliness and maybe have a cup of coffee one day soon. I deleted and never called him back. No going backwards for me.

I'm still planning on moving back to my hometown after the first of the year but, for now, I am doing better. I get stronger with each new day and in those few fleeting moments of weakness, I just come here and read all of the happenings and feel grateful that I am no longer a 'stepmonster'. I owe many of you a huge thanks. For the wonderful words of wisdom you took time to share with me, and for the continued sharing of your stories.... stories that remind me of how lucky I truly am.

Best wishes to all!



RedWingsFan's picture

CONGRATULATIONS A MILLION TIMES OVER!!!! And yes, I shouted that! I'm SO very happy for you! And your dog, your protector, what a perfect situation. You saved him and now he's helping to "save" you!!!!

Strength sure feels good doesn't it? I can relate. I'm unsure of your entire story, but from a fellow woman of a bad/unhealthy past relationship - nothing feels quite like being out on your own and doing things for yourself.

So glad you are doing so well!!!!! Biggrin

Purplemom's picture

Yay for you! and that is one smart pup you have there! The leash is kinda like an umbilical cord- and dogs have very savvy senses. He barked his big boy bark because I'd bet a dollar to a donut that you tensed up and tightened the leash and totally changed your body language... that gave pup the message that they were bad news- and he did a great job!!