:jawdrop: after all my post I am here to bash BM. Im angry. My life has been hell because my sd16 has wanted her forever. The older she got the worse it got. My post this past week have all been ranting about my sd16 running away and being a b* to my family, my boys. all because she wanted bm. Yesterday, to hell with it go! Here is what happened.

Backstory:

2 Fridays ago my SD16 goes missing from her aunts house. Cops were called. She was to have no contact with BM. well she did BM drove an hour to go get her. While they were hiding out from the cops they had all the ideas on how they were going to live happily ever after. Sd was going to finish school with straight A's. She was going to be able to date. BM was going to buy her a car. Then the next Wednesday BM made SD call Dh and tell her where she was. cops were called. They got her. Brought her back to us.

SD fought with us the whole entire time. BM is the best. shes gonna get a lawyer...BLAH BLAH BLAH.

DH finally got temp guardianship papers brought up yesterday. He tried to get ahold of BM all day. (he took off work) Shit really hit the fan when I got home from work because SD was rude again to my 7 yr old. I blew up told her never to call me mom again. that I have a name. and told her have a great life at bm.

So dh went bm house knocked on the door. no one would answer
sd said let me try. she stood outside and yelled for her mommy to open the door.
Bm called dh "get off my property now. I don't want her" a lot of other stuff was said and dh said you tell sd then
Bm did told her she didn't want her that she needed to go live with us. all sorts of stuff. was a real bitch!
SD came to me crying asking me for a hug when I got home from bs7 football practice I said no. why are you still here.
sd said "you were right. what did I do so wrong that again she doesn't want me. what have I done I have nowhere to go. I treated everyone like shit because I only wanted bm and now I have nothing. "
I said im sorry she is crazy. im sorry she lied. it doesn't feel good. and im sorry. I left it at that for about 3 hours.
she came out later when dh and I were talking. and said please im changing now and im sorry for what ive done.
Dh didn't say a word so I did: "Look sd I don't know what the plan is right now. we don't have one. but all I know is you have done all our family wrong and you need to change. don't worry about us right now. worry about yourself and who you will become if you keep on this way."

so why would the bitch drive over 100 miles to get someone she has no intent on keeping?!!!! I don't get it! Sd 16 was doing fine in the city with her aunt. doing online school making a's! had a little part time job! she was doing really well. then sd 16 called her and it was over! Why would a mom fill their own kids head full of bullshit and take it away. you could tell her heart was broke!!!!

Dh and I talked about sending her to job core. but I don't think she can maintain there either. dh wants his marriage. and I get that but what now! do I try this one more time? will this be the straw for sd to see bm for what she is? I can't get over driving 100 miles then saying eh I don't want you. unless it was just to prove sd will always want her! its bullshit. she has really messed with this kids mind. I want to go (but never would) to this womens house and kick her ass! ugh! :jawdrop: