You are here

Realization

jojo68's picture

I think I have come to a realization. My BF has lost all sense of his own self. He lives for his daughter and that is why he lives the way he does. He seems completely lost when he has to figure out entertainment that doesn't include her. Most of the time we watch cartoons or the Disney channel (I bet I have watched some of the reruns 10+ times LOL)even when his daughter is doing something else. I believe that he actually has forgotten what being a grown man is about. He has very little self-esteem as well.

Comments

EPMom's picture

jojo68 - I know how you feel. My fdh looks at me like I'm an Alien when I tell him I live with my children, not for my children. He does so much for his daughter (5), and now is only starting to realize that by doing everything for her is not teaching her to be independent. "but she's my daughter" is what I hear. He's even admitted to me that he needs to be more of a "MAN". He only sees her EOW and is so completely enamoured with her that he forgets that there are other people in the house, including his own son who we have eow as well (he's 12).

jojo68's picture

EPMom- My BF says the exact same thing, "but she's my daughter". My BF and his mom both have made this little girl into someone who can do nothing on her own even down to taking a bath by herself. At almost 10, she should be able to bath herself. SHe will tell my BF to get her a drink and he will do it. He waits on her...allows her to act anyway she wants without punishment or even scolding....she get to eat anything she wants when she wants it. I am thinking that in few years with this type of raising, she will either be running wild or be a very dependant unproductive person who thinks everbody owes her something.