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Submitted by jaja512 on Fri, 04/19/2013 - 10:37am

Ok so SD13 had a school dance last night. DH didn't let her go cause I found out she's been grinding on boys the whole time while she's there. So SD threw a big fit and had the worse smart mouth and started being disrespectful in the subway so I just kept my cool and DH took her phone away but to my suprize he gave it right back to her! Ugh idk why he does that she acts like a total idiot and is bam he gives her phone back. Ugh free SD anybody want her lol

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Fri, 04/19/2013 - 10:45am

Unfortunately, that's the way a lot of kids 13-15 are nowadays. I think it has a lot to do with the guilty parenting and the over sexualized society we live in. I can't remember ever doing that with boys, much less at that young of an age.

DH had the same type of issue with SD14 when she was 13. She got caught sexting her boyfriend, sending nasty messages on FB, then it turned to oral sex in her mother's backyard at 4AM and sex at her mother's house while she was at work. BM NEVER did a thing to discipline her. Said "She needs her friends so I can't take away her phone or her friends" and buried her head in the sand. WE took SD to a clinic to get her tested for STDs and pregnancy - BM said "she's fine".

Well, guess what? SD now lives with BM full time because she's permitted to do anything she wants without consequences. She now is about 50lbs heavier and BM pulled her out of school for close to a week to "mourn" the loss of her boyfriend that MOVED...ridiculous I know. She is raising a mini version of herself teaching her it's ok to lie, cheat and manipulate people to get what she wants and I'm glad I have nothing to do with SD anymore.

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Fri, 04/19/2013 - 10:54am

WishIKnew - good of you to be honest. I also had sex at 14 (well a month shy of turning 15, but still) because I was OH SO IN LOVE with my boyfriend and he pressured me saying he would leave me if I didn't have sex with him. At that time I was so insecure of myself that I gave in. He broke up with me a week later. After that I found my inner Detroit attitude and never allowed a boy to take advantage of me in high school again.

SD14 did all she did because of her incessant need for attention and drama. She used her FATHER'S phone to send nasty FB messages to her boyfriend at age 13, "forgetting" to sign out, and I think just asking to get caught for the drama that would follow.

DH told BM to put her on Birth Control ASAP or she'd make them grandparents before she turned 16. I still think it'll happen, because BM buries her head in the sand and doesn't believe her "baby" is capable of such things even after it's been PROVEN...

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Fri, 04/19/2013 - 11:10am

Hey Cheri,

Sorry you're going through that with your own daughter. I know it was sickening to hear of SD14 doing this stuff, even my DD15 was grossed out by her behavior.

Don't think it's just a plague of public schools though ok? My friend sends their 13 yr old daughter to a very expensive private school (she's been in private schools all her life). Guess what? They caught her with a boy in THEIR bed just last week...she says a lot of girls her age are having sex and there's one girl in the same private school that's pregnant. She's 16.

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Fri, 04/19/2013 - 11:26am

I hear ya. My DD15 knows a hell of a lot more at her age than I did too, but she has more respect for her body than to just give it up to anyone like SD did. I recall ONE girl getting pregnant in my public high school (and she was one of my very best friends who forgot to take her birth control pill and was in a serious relationship with the same boy since she was 14).

Hell, when I talk to my dad (who only just turned 57, I'm 40), he says I knew more at my age than he did, but guess what? Mom had me 9 days after she turned 16, dad was 17. So, sex at early ages has been happening for ages and ages.

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Fri, 04/19/2013 - 11:42am

No shit eh? Although I must say, my public-school-attending DD15 is very social and is still a virgin...hmmmmmmmm I wonder why? Oh because up until the past couple of years, *I* raised her full time and instilled pretty damn good morals and values in her. The only thing I can credit my ex with is that he's very strict and doesn't leave her alone with boys even though she's already told me if she WANTED to ever have sex with a boy, she could, her dad's strict rules aren't a deterrent.

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Submitted by Biomomof2 on Sat, 04/20/2013 - 2:54am

Honestly pulling my son out of public school right before Thanksgiving because he is really smart and the school wasn't helping. He should be starting 3rd next year. With home schooling he will be done with 3rd in 3 weeks.
And plenty of socialization. Monday he has a science class, Monday night is Karate. Tuesday he goes to a tumbling class with other homeschool kids. Wednesday he has a geography class and karate that night. Friday Karate and Saturday soccer. Plus he plays with the neighbor kids. Homeschooling is actually a real opinion now a days!!! Just not for my step daughter!!! She had behavior issues at school, we pulled her and I was miserable!!!!! She was homeschooled for two months and I couldn't take another minute!!!!!

If boys become an issue with my 10 year old girl I might just homeschool her!!! Lol

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Fri, 04/19/2013 - 11:41am

Where do you think all the bad kids from public schools get sent? Smile LOL! I went to Catholic school, and I tell you what...I learned more fro mmy classmates than I ever could have from MTV!

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Submitted by Unfreakingreal on Fri, 04/19/2013 - 2:23pm

Private School is JUST AS BAD if not worse. You should HEAR the conversations these boys have in the car when it's my turn to carpool. It's pretty scary.