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Submitted by jaja512 on Fri, 05/24/2013 - 1:25pm

Ok so SD14 got in trouble wed becuase she hasnt been goin to the after school program. She says it becuase of her X boyfriend bullying her. She was grounded anways for not going but come to find out she was with her X bf the day she got in trouble! She got her phone tookin away she has no tv in her room no radio Nuthin. So shes been in her room staring at the walls. Why should she have the privilege of watching tv and stuff right. Idk why this kid thinks shes did nuthin wrong. She thinks she wouldn't act this way if her daddy would show her some attention! Wtf! She said if her dad puts her first then she wouldn't do what shes doing! Ugh she has the nurve I swear!

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Submitted by step off already on Fri, 05/24/2013 - 1:32pm

Sorry. No one gets "put first" in a family - even once-spoiled only children that are used to being BFFs with the parent. The adult relationship is the center of the family and the kids benefit from what the two loving adults are able to provide.

SS13 tried pulling this at our house (we are the custodial parents and BM has him eowe and is currently playing the disney mom role sans any child support).

SS will pout that he just wants his dad to spend time like him like his mom does. We just tell him, sorry, your Dad is not your Mommy. YOur dad's job is to teach you to be a responsible, respectful and courteous young man so that you can go out in the world and make something good of your life. Your Dad will NEVER treat you like your mom does. And you should be happy about that because if you recall,,,, he didn't abandon you for 7 years.

End of story.

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Submitted by Drac0 on Fri, 05/24/2013 - 1:47pm

I agree with step off.

This is a common theme with all step children on these boards. Namely they don't understand the blended family dynamic much less understand where it is that they fit in. To a child, they only understand their parent's attention. It's like a spotlight. If the spotlight is on them, then great. All is right in their world. If the spotlight is off them, then something is wrong. They are suddenly bored, agitated, anxious and go litterally bonkers if their bio-Dad or Bio-Mom is out of their peripheral vision for more than 30 seconds.

When my SS was younger, I used to mess with his head all the time.

SS: "WHERE'S MY MOM!?!?!"

Me: "Oh she left us to join a travelling circus. She said she'll drop you a postcard every couple of months."

SS: "Ha! Ha! You're funny Draco...But seriously, where's my Mom!?"