Update: DH and remembering a bday
These were your choices for whether he remembered it was YSSs bday yesterday:
a. He already bought or paid for something and very obviously told YSS it was his bday present. (I'm thinking something that had to be paid for already.)
b. He's forgotten but will say something he paid for recently was the present.
c. He will remember tomorrow morning and run out to get some book as a token gift but really has nothing to do with YSSs current interests.
d. He won't remember at all.
The winner is D!
He realized this morning he completely forgot.
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I decided a few years ago to
I decided a few years ago to save myself the drama of getting upset that my husband doesn’t remember dates the same way I do and put important dates into his google calendar and set up alerts so he gets reminder messages.
Not a solution that is guaranteed to work, but it could do. I remember when we were younger my brother forgot my sister’s birthday too many times so one year she bought him a calendar for his birthday (or Christmas?) and write her birthday on it (before smart phones!). Seemed to have the desired effect!
Maybe forgetting ss’s birthday will kick your husband into making more of an effort.
I don’t remind him
And all bdays are in our common calendar. He can set alerts if he likes.
I stopped doing reminding over a year ago since he got pissy that he knew and could handle it, and that the skids were also on top of it. Ok. Now I do gifts my way and don't worry about DH. I don't remind, help, or even mention it since he's on top of it.
Last year the skids didn't get him a bday present or even say happy bday. They didn't keep track. For Xmas we got stuff that looked like they spent $5 each on the clearance/expired rack at the grocery store.
DH has been terrible at holidays and bdays. Always leaves it to the last minute. And he taught the skids by example (and unfortunately also influenced DS a bit).
We shall see if it kicks him into gear. He is usually much more focused on the skids so missing something for them is a bigger deal to him than missing something for anyone else (including me). Right now he's running himself ragged and getting frustrated trying to find a gift.
Seriously? Is continually
Seriously? Is continually forgetting people of significance in one’s life birthday really A Thing?
I’m not trying to be obtuse. I’m genuinely curious, because I’ve never experienced this in my life.
I kind of lean towards maybe he just doesn’t care?