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Place your bets: forgetting a bday

ITB2012's picture

Historically DH has totally whiffed on my bday, barely anything or completely last minute and very obviously not a priority. He's not as bad with the kids. 
But in the past I've reminded him and he's still left it to the end and he's told me he knows and he's got it. Fine. I've left it. 
Earlier this year he managed to get OSS something but I think it's because BM was talking to DH about college and grad presents and it was around the same time of his bday.

YSSs bday is tomorrow. DH has said boo about it. Nada. He's only focused on a set of meetings at work. 

Do you think:

a. He already bought or paid for something and very obviously told YSS it was his bday present. (I'm thinking something that had to be paid for already.)

b. He's forgotten but will say something he paid for recently was the present.

c. He will remember tomorrow morning and run out to get some book as a token gift but really has nothing to do with YSSs current interests. 

d. He won't remember at all. 
 

Also there are four other bdays within a two week span so it's not like there haven't been  talks about bdays. 

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ITB2012's picture

Because I'm a planner and I like to find a very on-point gift, I started getting things for the skids separately from DH a few years ago. So I have something for YSS. No, I'm not gonna put DHs name on it.

His last-minute, seat-of-the-pants, no-thought, anything-to-fill-the-gap gift buying drives me crazy and I want no part of it. Right now I'm very zen since I'm covered with how I like to handle it. No poking DH to think of things, no reminding, no frustration because he cannot decide or is waiting until it's too late and has to do something else (and the cycle starts again), no anger because he's abdicated the responsibility to me or has taken credit for my efforts.