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OT - Hypothetical question on working with exes

ITB2012's picture

DH and BM are in the same industry with the same kind of job. XH and I are in the same industry with the same kind of job.

Both BM and XH are looking for new jobs. There are job prospects at DH's company and my company, so DH and BM or me and XH could possibly work together. No idea if BM or XH want to work at them. 

How would you feel if your SO would be working with his/her ex? Not temporarily but full-time at the same company.

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ESMOD's picture

Honestly, I would avoid working with an EX.. and would not want my DH working with his EX.  Shoot, I made him change Dentists because he was still going to his first wife's dad's practice.. and SHE worked as a hygenist... and actually cleaned his teeth some of the time..

It's not that I don't trust him.. or that I really even worried about her.. but didn't like the idea of her hands being in my husband's mouth..lol.

 

notsurehowtodeal's picture

I wouldn't like it, but that is mostly because she was high conflict and I don't trust her. She is the type that might try and cause DH problems. If she was professional and their split was amicable it might be ok - but if I'm honest I still wouldn't like it. Not from a trust standpoint - just because she would still be involved in our life. I'd have to see her at the company Christmas party, which I would hate!

I did work with my ex-husband for a period of time after our divorce, and it was awful. He left me for someone else, so it was the pain of seeing him that was difficult. We were both professional at work, but I did change shifts so I wouldn't have to see him.

Harry's picture

To too much personal contact.  They did sleep together!   There will be too much personal information know by both parties.  There always be the hit up for exter money.  DH gets a bonus,  BM needs money for there kids.  Ect.