I have no idea what to get them
That was said by DH about his own kids. He thinks they are really hard to buy for. Back when I was buying the gifts I was able to come up with plenty of things.
Are other DHs this clueless about what their children want? I get that they are late teens but there are still personalities and interests and things they may have mentioned to help know what to do. Unless a kid is specifically into something right at the moment he is buying gifts he really has no ideas.
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My SO likes to think he knows
My SO likes to think he knows what to buy, but it usually ends up as a fail. This year he is convinced SD9 needs a $300 Nintendo Switch. She has not once expressed a desire for this, even after mentioning that her best friend has one. She is not that into video games, and loses interest quickly. I think for lack of better "big" gift ideas, he has latched onto this one. Last year it was this elaborate nail decorating kit, that was wayy too mature and complicated for an 8yr old. She never used it, ever, because we couldn't even figure it out. I tried to tell him that before he bought it, but he thought it was a slam dunk. I pay more attention than he does to what skids might actually want. I think most guys are just more clueless than women about gifts.
My DH has always bought SS's
My DH has always bought SS's gifts himself and he did a good job - he knows what he likes. In general, he's good with gifts, though.
I used to be very good at
I used to be very good at buying gifts but since I stopped doing alot of it now I don't have aclue what I am doing, taking the GSkids shopping tomorrow evening so that will be interesting, maybe my inner shopper will come back at least for a few hours, oh gawd I hope it's not hours lol
My husband sucks at gift
My husband sucks at gift buying. The first 3 years we were together, he got me VISA GIFTCARDS for my birthday. Like excuse me??? I'm your girlfriend... You literally couldn't think of anything but money? Like, that's what you get your sugar baby for her birthday, not your girlfriend lol. He's gotten a bit better, but even then, I need to give him lists and I handle all the shopping for SD7 and BS14mnths. He thanks me profusely for it, though.
FH sucks at gifts too.
FH is really bad figuring out what to get FSD11. I have taken over Santa duty, because there's no guarantee he'll get her anything that she's interested in. Part of it is that her interests keep changing so rapdily, it's hard to keep up with. Part of it is that there are things that he thinks are cool, but really just aren't cool to an 11-year-old girl.
My dad is actually the same way. Whatever he gets me is always slightly strange and slightly like he's never met me.
Interesting
I had a different experience growing up. My dad and male relatives all seemed to be good a figuring out gifts. My ex was good at it, too, so when the gifts started to go south that's when I knew something was up with our relationship. Even after my parents divorced, my dad has remained good at it so it wasn't just that my mom handled it.
My DH has no problem. The
My DH has no problem. The kids give a detailed list of what they think they're entitled to and where to buy it
LOL. That is DH. He asked
LOL. That is DH. He asked me two days ago, "What should I get SD12?"
"Well, you got her several things already, she need new clothes." Cover gave him a list of clothing ideas. Now it's up to him and Cover is done.
The challenge with SD12 is she will not give us a list or ask for anything. It's wierd.
I did give an idea or two
DH asked me directly so I gave an idea or two for each of them. The thing is he rejected them almost immediately. I don't get that. If he was so desperate for ideas and had none, then asked me specifically for ideas, why reject mine outright? He knows I've given thoughtful, on-point gifts to each of them in the past. And he came home with one of the things I said after rejecting it.
Then you don't make
Then you don't make recommendations any longer. If DH won't listen, then I won't continue the conversation or I'll not help him with it later. End of story. I pretty much put things on an Amazon Gift list that I share with him. Little to no discussion needed: "I sent you a link with some ideas." Done.
I'm not all that big on gifts
I'm not all that big on gifts. Sometimes I buy myself something from DH, wrap it and the "surprise" part is when he finds out what he's given me.
My partner has severe gift
My partner has severe gift giving anxieties! He's rubbish at it. But he's so thoughtful in so many other ways, I really don't care.