No clue how to deal with SS
SS(11)’s behavior keeps getting worse and I’m scared what he’ll end up doing next.
His latest antic: sneaking off when my sister is babysitting him and wandering around the neighborhood by himself for no reason. He did it once before a few weeks go, but this week he did it twice and on Thursday he was gone for well over an hour and my sister complete freaked out and nearly called the police. A neighbor found him wandering around three streets away. When asked why he did it or where he was going, he shrugs.
We don’t know to stop him from doing this and we can’t expect my sister to watch him every second while he’s there. (After school, he’s been staying with my sister who’s a SAHM two days a week when I’m at work. I stopped working when my daughter was born 3 years ago and I started back at my old job part-time earlier this year.)
My sister has to deal with my 9 month old, my 3 year old, her 19 month old and 11 year old. Who’s the problem? The 11 year old!!
When he came to live with DH and I full time, I didn’t want to have to quit my job to babysit him after school. I want to get back to my career and I have a great opportunity that I don’t want to miss out on. My sister agreed to watch him and we thought it wouldn’t be any big deal and he could help out. Now there’s no way we’re going to burden her with dealing with his crazy behavior. I know he’ll keep doing this or something worse. We’re going to have find an after school program and spend even more money on during the summer on child care.
We have absolutely no control over anything he does. Punishments don’t phase him. He’s oblivious to everything. He ignores me and now everyone else. He sulks in his room when he’s home and since he doesn’t have a hiding place at my sister’s house, I think he’s going off to wander in the neighborhood.