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Get a J-O-B, JOB BM!!!!!!!

iaintnoangel's picture

Okay so previously posted about BM threatening to take 50% of our household income for CS. Well its been a HECTIC week and a bit thus far. After consulting with my attorneys in both countries, it turns out BM has no case as currently she is getting over and above what would be court ordered for CS as the court expects her to contribute half towards SD's maintenance. The attorney did advise me to get a post-nuptial agreement which I am yet to discuss with DH though (I refuse to contribute towards SD's upkeep while BM sits at home all day in a house DH bought for her and where DH pays all the bills, and her brand new car that DH bought for her). So I told DH to get the CS agreement he has with BM in writing and take it to court in order to protect us. BM was not happy to hear about this, because it would mean a drop in the tens of thousands of CS she gets annually to a couple of hundred dollars a month (if CS is court ordered). DH told her well if you stopped threatening my wife with frivolous lawsuits, we wouldn't be in this situation.

So BM called me to say it was unfair that I was diverting DH's attention from SD and draining all his money on the university school fees, my beach house and our matching range rovers, plus the overseas shopping trips I take and I am the devil

Not that its any of your business BM BUT
#1 - my parents paid for my college tuition and supported me fully throughout my undergraduate and masters degrees
#2 - my parents bought me an amazing house by the beach as a wedding present
#3 - DH is MY husband and I don't need to to explain what I DO with our money to you or what cars I buy, you shouldn't even be complaining because DH bought you a car a year ago because you didn't have one and couldn't get SD to the hospital one night when she got sick - next time call a cab
#4 - I travel a lot! GET OVER IT! Its my job and I make good money so I WILL spend it on whatever my heart desires!
#5 - I tolerate the fact that you and SD are part of DH's life and he goes over and above his obligation to you, if it wasn't for me SD would never see DH because he works so much and can't actually handle a 5 year old but I make sure he sees his child and tries to have a relationship with her. If it wasn't for me SD would just be another bill for him to pay.

So after this phone call BM calls DH and informs him she will be moving into MY house at the end of the month when she finalizes her move to South Africa. I just prayed quietly to myself, Lord give me strength. DH and I have moved out of our house and are currently living in a hotel before we relocate to Australia in two weeks. BM's logic is that whatever we have belongs to DH, whatever belongs to DH belongs to SD because she is his only child and subsequently whatever belongs to SD belongs to BM, so essentially my house is her house. DH told her she would be arrested if she stepped on our property and BM was livid and went off on him about abandoning her and SD and how he is becoming evil because of me. She told him if they can't move into the house she must come with us to Aus???? Hello???????? Is anyone home in there BM? Why would I pay for the only source of stress in my life to come with me? At this point I just took DH's phone (it was on speakerphone in the car while we were driving to dinner) and threw it out the window. Is she serious? Can someone just confirm this woman is indeed CRAZY!

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TASHA1983's picture

That woman (I use that term loosely) Is BAT SHIT CRAZY!!!!

It would take ALL the strength I had in me NOT to beat the living daylights out of her for the shit that spews out of her mouth!!!

iaintnoangel's picture

She must be extremely grateful my parents raised me properly

iaintnoangel's picture

She thinks she's entitled to everything we have, I give up this woman is crazy, the law expects her to have a job I think its about time DH expected it too.

TASHA1983's picture

^^^EXACTLY^^^

I CANT STAND bm that THINK/BELIEVE that they can/should live off the backs of their EX'S (via CS) because they birthed their children!!!

CHILD SUPPORT IS NOT AN INCOME FOR YOU.....It is to HELP raise THEIR CHILD ONLY!!!!

Fuck THEM ALL...GET A JOB!!!

iaintnoangel's picture

Oh BM thinks that because of SD she hit the jackpot. BM lives better than a lot of people because of SD. Who thinks like that? Well I'm glad the law said it, she needs to get a job and contribute to HER child.

htchc4190's picture

she is NOT entitled to everything you have...

BM is jealous of your good fortune and is using her daughter against you and ur DH...
just saying..

BSgoinon's picture

Even an a-hole birth mom should know better than this. MOVE IN WITH THEM? Come on, are people REALLY that stupid?

I know I know, they are... I just can't believe it sometimes.

BSgoinon's picture

OH MY GAWD...

That was my favorite response EVER. Like ever ever. I have been on this board a LONNNNGGGG time (like 6 years total) and this is the best thing I Have ever read here.

iaintnoangel's picture

honestly can I borrow you the next time she calls! Lol that would be a wonderful surprise for her, maybe she'll finally get it!

Jsmom's picture

She is crazy!!! You need to get an RO in place and seriously look at a post nup. He is a fool for overpaying her. He needs it to be court mandated CS. Pay no more than that or it is seen as a gift by the courts and not considered CS.

What a mess!

iaintnoangel's picture

I told him to get court mandated CS, overpaying her just fuels her entitlement. She needs to get a job. He feels guilty that SD will go without. He takes care of all the basic costs so what more money does she need? She only buys groceries and clothing and no one spends the kind of money she gets on those two things alone.

purpledaisies's picture

Sd may do with out for just a little while but in the long run it will eventually make bm step up and stop a lot of this crap. He needs to stick to his guns on this and better to do it now while sd is young b/c it will be worse if he does it later. He needs to make it very clear to her he won't put up with her crap just b/c she ha d his kid.

htchc4190's picture

omg that woman is insane... i would have been in ur shoes, i might already be in jail... im just saying.... lol