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SD16/ SO interactions always inconsistent

Helena.Handbasket's picture

The weekend starts with SO NOT wanting to go pick up SD on saturday. His attitude is that she only comes here because she wants something. Which is the correct thinking. BUT then he feels guilty for thinking that and he compensates by his actions towards her while she's here.

"what honey"
"babygirl, do you want to stop and rent a movie?"

BLEGH

Saturday, we go to the hardware store and look at a ceiling fan I want for the baby's room. I don't like taking skids to do these things because then SO lets them give an opinion. I could give two shits about what they think about what goes in MY house. My fav ceiling fan is not a kiddie one, its contemporary. Eventually that nursery will be a guest bedroom/office area. Once SD is out, I'm taking her room over. Well, SO is excited and shows the skids the two fans we like. SD about my pick "EWe gross. That's not good for a baby's room at all. I dont' like that one" Of course she likes the one SO likes. Then says "I guess my opinion really doesn't matter though" NO it doesn't bitch. But SO feeling bad says hesitantly "well its fine. I asked because I wanted your opinion" Well SO you speak for yourself. I just stayed silent.

I left him to his own devices with my disengagement on sunday. He was so frustrated. He over plans then gets pissed because he can't do everything and it becomes the world's fault. He tore apart SS's room (the plan was to work on the BABY's room) but he wanted to paint SSs room too. Whatever. That's on you. I'm worried about MY BABY. So, I got my painting done. SO? HA! He had to run his children back and forth all while trying to get SS's room painted, plus since I'm getting MY BABYs room carpeted, he's getting carpet for SS. Now, I should say SS doesn't bother me and earns his keep in the house. I have quashed any changes that are desired for SD's room. Fuck her. Anyways, he was really frustrated, because then he didn't get anything done and we had to run to a bday party for my friend's son.

We get to the bday party which I fully expected SD to follow daddy around. for the most part she did, but there were some surprising times when she didn't and wanted to be around me. Makes me suspicious. I have learned when she starts sitting next to daddy or standing next to him, to just walk away. I am not playing her stupid game. Of course at one point when we are there, me and SO are sitting next to one another in patio chairs on the deck. She comes and sits across from him. THEN starts rubbing her toes on his feet and they start pushing one each others feet and basically playing footsie. FUCK ME :sick: I got up and went to the pool.

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imjustthemaid's picture

Ewwww footsies!!!! Ok I would have had to walk away too!!

DH does the same thing with SD (no, not footsie) He complains about her, then overcompensates. It drives me crazy!!

goincrazy.com's picture

Seriously???? Who plays footsie and rubs toes with their dad??? That is fucking sick and gross! I would have gave them the grossest, crustiest stank ass look ever and walked away just like you did. I have straight up told my FDH that their cuddling shit is not normal. And it creeps me out. If I didn't live with him I GUARANTEE She would probley sleep in the same bed as him. WTF, Ew I always thought man feet were gross as a kid

Helena.Handbasket's picture

Yeah, I posted this in the other blog too. I probably should have asked them if they wanted a room so they could be alone.

DaizyDuke's picture

We must be living in some parallel universe where my DH is your DH and my SD is your SD.... this was my piss off moment yesterday.

SD goes upstairs and takes a shower in MY bathroom when she has a bathroom right next door to HER bedroom. Her excuse is that BS2 sometimes tries to go in there when she is in the shower and there is no lock on the door.. I have never seen this happen, but whatever. Then she comes downstairs and sits on the couch strictly so she could lurk. BS2 was watching Dora... why would SD not want to watch something on the TV in her room? Whatever. DH and I are in the kitchen reading the paper and chatting. DH heads upstairs and on his way up, sneaks SDs cell phone from behind her back. She immediately realizes that cell phone is missing and that DH has it and runs up the stairs after him. Now I'm seriously grossed the fuck out.. they are acting like giggly boyfriend and girlfriend at this point. Then, SD STAYS upstairs in MY bedroom, watching TV with DH. Actually came back downstairs to get chips and take them back up. I was pissed but was going to be damned if I let HER know it, so I just went outside and rode my horse (which is something that SD would have loved to do) Tough shit, you want your special daddy time? Have at it. when I came back in the house about 45 minutes later, she was in her own room watching TV.. guess when she realized that I didn't give a shit, she gave up.

She and SS are leaving for another state in the morning with DH's Aunt. Supposedly for 2 weeks. Can I tell you how freaking EXCITED I am right now???????????!!!!!!!!!

Helena.Handbasket's picture

Yes yes yes!

"Then she comes downstairs and sits on the couch strictly so she could lurk."

- my sd does this when she wants attention from dad.

The giggly boyfriend girlfriend thing grosses me the fuck out too! I hate their jokes. I leave.

"when I came back in the house about 45 minutes later, she was in her own room watching TV.. guess when she realized that I didn't give a shit, she gave up."

-- exactly! When I stay away from SO, SD wants nothing to do with him either. Unless I am around him, she won't try to sit right under his ass and she eventually just goes off in to her room. This is why I stay away from both of them when she's around. Fucking electra complex. GROSS

imjustthemaid's picture

That happens to me to-If I stay away from him then SD stays away from him!! These kids are nuts!!

SD lurks in the kitchen. She paces around twirling her hair looking all awkward. I have to walk away from it. DH runs and hides when he sees her coming!!

I would die if I ever found SD in my bedroom watching tv!!

Helena.Handbasket's picture

THE HAIR TWIRLING AND FLIPPING. OMG!!!! I hate that. Its the grossest thing to watch a girl flirt with her father. Its not cute its sick!

I would too. I imagine I would just walk in and say get out before I realized what I was saying.

goincrazy.com's picture

WE got in a HUGE fight about this, NO KIDS IN MY FUCKING ROOM! He told SD she could chill in our room bc her room was to hot a few weeks ago, but my BD can't bc she eats in there and she's not supposed to and sneaks snacks up. I was IRATE!!! I come home, she's still in there and left her mountain dew cans on my night stand. He went and got central air (which we needed anyway) I think it's just so he doesn't have to tell her she's not allowed in our room. I told him, U fucking tell her or I will!!! Now my room stays locked.

Can we fast forward a few years so she can get her own life and stop being up daddys ass???

Helena.Handbasket's picture

"Can we fast forward a few years so she can get her own life and stop being up daddys ass???"

Please let this actually happen!!!

This is what I have to do with SO. Either you handle it or I will and you won't like how I say it!