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Helena.Handbasket's picture

We thought we had nothing to worry about with SS15. He just found out he's engaging in illegal drug activity. BM doesn't know yet, we are going to tell her.
Part if me says let's just blow it all open and go to court and take him. Another says it's a huge risk because he may fight us and rebel anyway.

He was such a good kid. Talks about college worries about grades. I have no idea what happened that he is doing all these bad things now. Lying to his mom and dad.

Dad still lives out of state and he feels like court will be hard because he lives out of state 5 days a week. We are going to consult a lawyer but has anyone experience this??

I'm totally caught off guard here. I never thought he would be doing the thing a he is doing.

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Helena.Handbasket's picture

Honestly, I see BM finding some way to blame DH. But to answer your questions, probably nothing obvious or court worthy, but BMs father smokes around the kids and so does her oldest stepchild. All of the kids in her house are not doing anything but working fast food since graduating high school. Ss15 is the youngest and last in school. Her homes track record sucks for developing decent members is society. She also drinks with her friends and husband, falling down drunk, on the weekends. She doesn't realize SS is sneaking out to either smoke or go to his girlfriends house.

We are also worried about risking court since what I said above May not matter to a judge. Not to mention SS isn't going to want to leave his girlfriend.

BM is just dumb and lazy mainly so we don't think she will be able to handle teenage boy problems.

Helena.Handbasket's picture

He's selling too.
Neither kids come up to see is anymore because they have plans every weekend with their friends. You are right. It's the weekends.

BethAnne's picture

it sounds like a more fruitful route maybe for dad (with BM if possible, if not through court) to start enforcing weekend visits. That way your husband can keep an eye on him, he will be away from his usual neighbourhood (customers, supplieers etc) and hopefully your husband can find him some more savoury hobbies or employment. If your husband doesn't already have CO with weekend visitation, that would be a lot more achievable in court than full custody.