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Update to SD moving in with us

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Submitted by HappyCow on Tue, 10/01/2013 - 11:59am

DH spoke at length with a lawyer today and basically it is all up to BM if she really doesn't want SD15 living with her anymore. If she fights it there is nothing that we can do. DH will have to drop her back off at her BM's house today. However, if she wants to go through with it our attroney is going to draw up paper work for both of them to sign so we can enroll SD15 in the new school.

Is it bad that I am praying that she fights this? I just want a happy normal home life that is not stressfull. I have been on this site long enough to know that a 15 step is not fun to live with!! I have butterflies in my stomach and really really hope this doesn't happen.

I feel like such a bad step mom.

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overworkedmom's picture

Submitted by overworkedmom on Tue, 10/01/2013 - 12:02pm

Your not bad! You are a realist! I am praying that the outcome is what is best for everyone involved!!

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Tue, 10/01/2013 - 12:52pm

Here's to hoping that BM fights this.... been there living that nightmare right now and I hope you don't have to go through it too.

I'll probably get flamed but dont care. I don't think a 14, 15, 16 etc year old should get to choose where they want to live.. because it gets used as a tool of manipulation. SD15 uprooted our household when she decided she wanted to move in with us, not because she loves DH so much (and she hates me)... nope simply because she wanted to switch schools because she was failing and thought it would be an easy out. DH won't admit it, but I KNOW he lives under the constant spector that if he dare rock the boat with SD15 that she will run back to BM and trust me, SD15 KNOWS this and plays both sides against the other.

It's just another tool of manipulation that skids use because they come from a "broken home" I mean what is by BS3 going to do when he gets pissed at me or DH when he is 15? Nothing, we're going to have to deal with it as a family.

I just think it gives them too much power to think that they can choose where they want to live and hold that over each parent's head.