At what age do you stop paying for your kids vacations?
DH and I would like to take a trip to Mexico this winter and take DD10 with us since kids under 12 are free at the all inclusive resort. We would just would have to pay for her plane ticket.
If we were to take SD19 it would be the cost of the plane ticket (around $500) plus whatever the resort would want us to pay for an additional adult. I am thinking around $600 which would put us way over budget on going on this trip. There is no way she can pay her own way she is in school full time and is responsible for paying what student loans don't cover.
We both feel guilty not taking her on this trip because we never took her anywhere this exotic. On one hand we don't want to deny DD10 this opportunity but on the other we don't want SD19 to be upset that we took this trip without her.
DH believes that once you turn 18 we shouldn't have to pay for vacations anymore but is still hung up on going vs not going.
It would be a lot different if BM ever did anything remotely interesting with SD19 but she never does anything. The only vacations that this kid has ever gone on are with us. It's not like she didn't get great vacations in the past just nothing tropical and out of the country.
DH and I already did a small trip to Punta Cana late last year to celebrate our 15th anniversary by ourselves that SD19 was jealous of. She has made a lot of comments to us about it. SD19 already thinks DD10 has it a lot better than she ever did. However, DH and I are happily married and at this stage of our lives we are more comfortable then when SD19 was growing up and we were paying $500 each month to BM. Our resources were limited back then.
Would you deny your DD10 a trip or push the trip to another time when we can afford to take our adult SD19 with us?