Reporting child abuse uk, any advice?
Last xmas SO called the nspcc about the fact that BM was beating the SKIDS, ridiculing them, picking mostly on SS5, not dressing them properley, rapidly decreasing contact with SO, cutting out contact altogether on a whim, regularly loosing her temper in front of the SKIDS with SO and her neighbours (then emailing SO saying that she wants him to go talk to her neighbours saying they started it and were frightening the SKIDS and that she wants the neighbours to go to mediation and that she had reported them to the residence association) the SKIDS were often frightend to go home due to not knowing what mood BM would be in when they got there, and if she would make their lives hell for having a good time with us, total PAS'ing the SKIDS, BM is emotionally unstable and delusional.
The nspcc handed it over to their local social services. Social services gave BM a phone call and nothing more was said or done.
My mum works in a school in another borough and spoke to somebody in passing from childrens services about it yesterday. This person said that if there were concerns of physical abuse and she just gave mum a phone call, she could get struck off for misconduct.
Does anybody know if this varies in the uk depending on borough? Is it normal just to give BM a call and leave it at that?
Ive just gotten off the phone with childrens social servies in their borough and they said that the person who made the call was clearly satisfied with the responces from BM over the phone, and decided that the children were not being harmed or neglected and so no further action was needed.
WTF???
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Social services are required
Social services are required by law to go and make a visit.
Yes but if a complaint it put
Yes but if a complaint it put in with social services they HAVE to investigate. They are very thorough over here as there have been a lot of children dying from neglect even when social services have been involved. Just google Baby P. A phone investigation is not sufficent because she could just palm them off with anything. They have to go round and see the child in the home and see the current state of things ect. They cant do that with a phone call. However if they get a complaint from a more official source ie school, doctor ect maybe this is why they didnt go round. If the school had any cause for concern they are duty bound to report it. Going on what the original post said the only possible grounds for nelglect are not dressing them appropriately and possibly picking on ss5, that would be classed as emotional abuse. Are the kids clean, well fed ect
What is the property like. If
What is the property like. If it is a complete shit tip then this would also be grounds as well.
Thats the problem. Her house
Thats the problem. Her house is imaculate shes OCD clean! The SKIDS complain that my daughters room is disgusting and messy because I let them get toys out on the bedroom floor!!
She is the local brownie leader and is class rep and book club organiser at school shes the *model mother* to the outside world.
Baby P has cropped up in my conversations with my SO too. Why wont they take it more seriously - especially after the rules got changed because of cases like baby P!!!!
Just because her house is clean, and she puts on a show of normality when in public doesnt mean that her children arent suffering. When asked last saturday what he had for breakfast SS5 said "3 crisps" SD8 had cereal. When asked what BM gives them for lunch, SD says "crackers" ...when questioned, what was with them she has said on several occations "Nothing, just plain crackers". BM also gives them LOADS of sweets on the days that SO has them (presumably to make them hyper and more badly behaved) and they ALWAYS want dinner on tues eves at SO's house, even though mum gives them "beans on toast on tuesdays". Apparently they get fish and chips on wednesdays after Brownies.
The problem is, the children havent told the teachers what goes on at home, I imagine as BM has close links to the school they are worried about it getting back to her. (SO informed the teachers that we had raised concerns with social services and to be more vigilant)
We were hoping that the children would want to go and talk to the mediators about what goes on, but BM convinced them that they didnt need to go, and now we are trying to figure out how to convince them that mediation could be helpful to them (in the hope that they will tell somebody other than us)