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The rotating front door…

Don'tWantToGoHome's picture

Submitted by Don'tWantToGoHome on Thu, 01/22/2015 - 10:16am

Anyone ever dealt with rotating front door syndrome? SS is 20 and by all accounts is worthless. No work, no school, no nothing…ever, unless of course it is on a playstation or an iPhone. Have raised him since he was 9 and he has been nothing but trouble (with the law, or the school, or DHS because he refuses to have anything to do with his child in another state). He lies, he steals and if he is speaking, at best, it is half-truths. It would be nice to see him out of the house for good, however he leaves-he returns, repeat, repeat, repeat. BM, while not 100% is supportive of SS actions is not 100% against it either. Refuses to let him “Live on the streets.”

So, currently we are in the phase of SS living on our side of the front door, and it is beyond miserable. Everything must be locked down, or it will be missing. Wi-Fi is off because that’s all he would do if it were on. Strongly considering removing the breaker from the breaker box to his room and leaving his a** in the dark.

Out of solutions and out of patience. Anything?

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furkidsforme's picture

Submitted by furkidsforme on Thu, 01/22/2015 - 10:53am

Mr. Lazy Pants sounds like he needs a job. ANY JOB. And adult man, not working and not going to school? WHO ALLOWS THIS?????

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Submitted by AllySkoo on Thu, 01/22/2015 - 11:13am

"If both parents were dead, where would that kid be? Who would he cry to if he didn't get his way?"

It's funny (in a macabre sort of way) that you ask this. My dad had a cousin who was "failure to launch". This cousin lived with her parents well into her 40's. Her parents did eventually both die. Cousin was homeless (no one else would take her in, she was an alcoholic on top of never having had a job in her life). She ended up OD'ing and died about a year after her parents.

Soooo.... yeah. Parents aren't doing young adults any favors by letting them drift and stay home. Because the longer they don't take care of themselves, the less likely they ever WILL be able to take care of themselves, and the parents aren't going to be around forever.