Sharing interest.
I want to share something positive. One of the best things about being a bonus mom (not married yet) is that the kids are picking up some of my interest.
I’ve had people say they look like me which is nice but means very little. What really makes me happy is when they do something that I know came from me. Like the oldest loves some of the same books I loved. I’m the one who introduced her to them and now she has posters and toys and wants new bedding.
The little on loves the same puzzles I do. I recently got a high-tech version of a puzzle I enjoy and he AND his sister both keep begging to use it. He loves going in my room and grabbing my “fiddle puzzles” as I call them and just sits for hours playing with them if you let him.
I love sharing video games with them and when we go out hiking. It’s stuff that we can do together and really connect. There’s almost a piece of me that’s happy because one day I know I’ll hear the “I hate you” stuff but I’ll remember that I’M the reason they like X or Y. That we’ll always have that connection. Every time she opens those books she’ll remember us reading them at bedtime. Every time he plays with that puzzle he’ll remember me helping him figure it out.
It just makes me really happy.
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Love it!
Love it!
While SD26 got her love of literature from my DH (her stepdad), she and I enjoy many of the same books. FTR, BioHo does NOT like to read.
For us BM atleast supports
For us BM atleast supports the child on reading. SO has said she never did story time with the kids when they were together.
You're fortunate. BioHo never
You're fortunate. BioHo never encouraged her children to read and frequently griped about SD26 and SS19 being bookworms. Why any parents wouldn't want their children to learn and have healthy interests is beyond me!
Bonus Mom. ?
Really . Hope you keep on blogging on these boards, please save the the blogs. I would like to see them in two or three years. When the kids get the reality that BM and BF are not getting back together and you are the cause.
Harry sometimes you post
Harry sometimes you post really helpful things. This, though, what in the world? You sound like the BM2 I deal with. She had spent the last 7.5 years trying to bust up DH and I. She is so convinced that she would have succeeded had he not been married to me. Reality is SHE left him FOUR YEARS before DH and I were ever a thing. Kept telling him to move on...so he did. Then she realised her Plan B was no longer waiting around for her and tried every trick in the book to get him back on her use and abuse list.
SM's have enough hardships, don't add to them on a site meant as a relief and safe place.
Huh? Stepparents are now the reason why the bio
Parents will never be back together again? Say what??
isn’t if a marriage failed way before like years before you even met one of the people, doesn’t this confirm you were not the reason for the failure, that both of the bio parents were??
but suddenly a stepparent comes in the picture and suddenly we are the cause and reason why mummy and daddy won’t be together again?
WRONG.... the bio mum and dad are the cause of why they will never be back together. The narcissistic parent, the pas parent, the abusive parent, the cheating parent, the lazy parent, the disney parent, the neglectful parent, the non nurturing parent, the absent parent, the pathetic parent. These are the reasons why they won’t be back together again.
Heck if 1 of my skids blamed and bitched about me to daddy that i am the reason why mummy and daddy won’t get back together, hubby would remind them that their mum is the reason why hubby is incapable of ever wanting anything to do with her
I don't get where you're
I don't get where you're coming from? I didn't even know SO before he and BM broke up. I have nothing to do with their not getting back together. If they want to blame me they'll have a hard time considering BM's behavior and the things she's said. She's made it perfectly clear that SHE left their dad and has played up how happy she is without him.
But on another note if your only intent is to be hateful keep it to yourself. Being happy with the relationship I have with the children at this point isn't a bad thing. I know full well there may be conflict in our future so I'll be happy for the good I have now.
Hate to bea downer
She’ll likely forget it was you who introduced her to this stuff. I went through that honeymoon phase too. Nope, somehow biomom of biodad gets the credit now.