SD is "depressed"..
It's been awhile since I've posted which is a good thing! On one of the best days of my life SD18 left the state and went to college nearly 2 months ago! DH and I have been loving life and enjoying time together like we never got to before. Ex-psychoe and the misery she brought into our lives has been becoming a distant memory... things are just TOO good.
So yesterday DH gets a text from psychoe which is a forwarded message she received from SD18's friend at school. She met this girl online before she went to college in some group chat of kids going to her school. For some reason SD18 seems to choose friends who all have drama in their lives & they feed off eachother. They create bull$hit problems that don't exist because their privelged lives are just soooo hard.
So DH receives this forwarded text which is a short novel detailing that SD is horribly depressed and afraid to tell psychoe or DH for fear of disappotining them. Why is SD depressed you might ask? Oh well it's very very serious... "all the other kids at school drink and smoke and she's having some serious FOMO (fear of missing out)". Are you F&#$ing kidding me??? I coudn't read the whole message because I was immediately beyond pissed off. What a joke. DH is forking out nearly 40k a year for her to go to her private school in an expensive city and she's sad. Well TFB! The best part I read... in this girls opinion "SD shoud really be talking to therapist"... oh yes! On top of college tuitions, alimony, "child" support and everything else lets fork over hundreds of dollars more a month so she can go whine like the snowflake she is to a therapist. SD is extemel judgmental about anyone who drinks or smokes pot. Look- I'm not encouraging anyone to do it. But not everyone who does is an alcoholic or pothead. Because psychoe was an alcoholic for 5 minutes who HAD to go to rehab a few years ago (drama stunt after we got engaged) SD18 is NEVER EVER going to drink. TBH- I wish she would. Might help remove the stick from her a$$.
We dealt with this sort of thing for years with OSS23. He's a functioning trainwreck. I'd venture to say DH spent 10,000+ in medical bills. About a year ago he spent a few weeks in a psychward after a supposed suicide attempt which I question even happened. He was at pscyhoe's at that time and she has a tendency to exagerrate things. But none the less the threat was taken seriously. Magically a month of two later he started getting laid (forive the vulgarity) and all his problems magically went away. WOW.
Soo here we are again. Now it's SD18's turn to cause problems and F#%K up our peace and happiness. What is with these kids these days??? My DH said the other day that he thinks kids who grow up poor don't have these same issues... I tend to agree most of the time. But, I didn't grow up poor. We weren't rich but my parents worked hard and we had a beautiful home and I had everything I could want. I didn't go to college. I worked FT from 18 on.and never caused the problems for my parents these kids cause.
So DH told psychoe to deal with it because she and SD are "besties"! I just fear this will turn into the same $hit we dealt with before. Psychoe will blow up DH's phone with calls and texts and he will have to take them becase it's about SD. I pray this won't turn into the same $hitstorm but I'm bracing myself for impact.
Thanks for listening! Also- please no comments of "LEAVE HIM" or "RUN". I hate that. I feel like I have to add the disclaimer that I very much love my DH and while I wish he didn't have children or an ex-wife I wouldn't ever want to live my life without him. OK...tha'ts all! Kind of hope I don't need to post again anytime soon :)