NYE and the Witch is here!
Hey All! Hope everyone enjoyed the holidays and if any luck you're going to enjoy a nice night at home without your Skids there!
So my SD18 got home from college the week before X-Mas. I absolutely hate when she's here. If you've read my past blogs you know how I feel about her! SS20 has been home since Thanksgiving and I feel the complete opposite about him! He's sweet, helpful, doesn't complain when asked to do / not do something, etc. SD18 is a total bi#$h unless things are exactly as she wants them to be... her way.
DH and I decided it would be a good idea for him to buy an old used car for SD18 to use when she is here for work, etc. TBH- I was onboard because it meant she won't be sitting around the house and I won't have to see her face as much. So he very sweetly surprised her X-Mas morning with it.. put a big bow on it and everything. I wish she was someone I actually liked because it was a very cool moment but I didn't enjoy it because I despise her so much.
Wellll.... she drove the thing everywhere for 5 days straight. Didn't see her- it was great! The car is older and we bought in private sale. It just passed emissions and seemed to drive really well! DH put 4 brand new tires on and about $3,000+ later we called it a day! REALLY nice gift! Well on the 5th day apparently the transmission blew on her way to see BM. The best part... SD18 was "too scared" to call DH and tell him which is total BS because he has NEVER yelled at these kids she had BM do it. I was SO pissed. So long story short... not it's going to cost another $2,000 to fix the stupid car but we really have no choice. We're too far into it and would get no $ back and then have to go get something else I suppose.
FF to last night. I was SOOOO hopeful that SD was going to spend the night at her friend's house for NYE with their "boyfriends". So she comes out into the living room and opens with the dreaded question to daddy she's been doing since I've known her (12) that makes my stomach turn because I know she's going to ask something that I'm not going to like... " Dad... Do you love me???" (INSERT ME SCREAMING INSIDE MY HEAD). "Well.... would it be OK if friend and boyfriends sleepover here tomorrow??? We will be quiet". NOW- we have never allowed boyfriends to sleepover the house. He tells her he's going to think about it so she proceeds to stand there staring at us and finally gets the hint to leave the room.
I ended up getting into small argument with DH because I'm wildly uncomfortable with this. I barely know these "men" and I don't understand why they need to sleep here unless there's obviously shenanigans going on! He of course just wants to tell her yes and make her happy with his never ending guilt complex I feel he has. I tell him do whatever he wants and I'm going to bed because I know now my NYE is not going to be what I want AT all.
Well... I don't hear the whole conversation between the two of them after but the gist I believe was that he told her everyone could hang out here but boys could not sleep here. I hear her arguing and then stomp off and slam her bedroom door. What a selfish, immature little brat. It makes me mad that DH does nothing about that. I would've followed her @$$ in there and let her know if she slammed the door ever again she wouldn't have one.
UGH- it just makes me so angry all around. She's all "love you dad" and "thank you sooo much" when she's getting her way (r.e. car, etc) but then the second he tells her no (which was a very reasonable no) she's a nasty little bi#$h. EVERYTIME. Can I also say that she NEVER addresses me when she's in the room. Anything she has to say is very specifically directed to only Dad, not me. Which is more than fine with me!! Now I don't have to pretend to fake an interest in her or her life.
Well... thanks for listening! I just needed to get that out. I didn't sleep well last night. I suffer from very very bad stomach problems which I think is triggered greatly when I have anxiety.. and when she's home it's everyday. I wake up during the night with my stomach gurgling and I just can't sleep through it. I just tossed and turned thinking of everything I want to say to her + to him about how he handles her. BUT, I think it be best I let it go and just find my own personal peace no matter what tonight brings.
Happy New Years All!!!