Help Me Disengage with BM and Deal with DH's snoring
Help Me Disengage! I've been seeing "disengage" pop up in the forums and think, "wow...that sounds great!" How do I start?
Back story - DH and I began re-dating in 2010 (dated in 1999-2000, broke up because we were both way too young). We got married in summer 2012. BM and I were co-workers in 2000-2001-ish - neither of us were involved with DH. BM and I were polite as coworkers, occasionally socialized at work functions, but I've never liked her and was relieved when she quit.
Current Big Issue #1 - BM moved 300 miles away Sept. 2010 (courts allowed BM to take SD with her) to live with new boyfriend. Their marriage lasted from Aug - Oct. 2012. BM has moved back to original city and has introduced SD9 to new bf#1 over Christmas - they broke up NYE. BM introduced SD9 to new bf #2 on Jan. 12 and has had SD sleepover at bf#2's house last week. DH isn't saying anything. "Well it's her life. I can't say anything."
Current Big Issue #2 - DH recently changed jobs. He has to get up for work at 4 am, so he goes to bed at 8 pm. He's been snoring like a freight train every night this week. I haven't been able to sleep at all this week - getting maybe 4-5 hours. Saturday night, I got 2hrs of sleep before giving up at 5am. All week, I joked about getting ear plugs for me and the breath right strips for him but tonight we were at the store and I said that I needed to go to the pharmacy section to buy the ear plugs and nose strips. He replied, "I don't like the nose strips. They hurt my nose, especially since I have to wear glasses all day." Are you serious?!?! ok fine, so I grab ear plugs for myself. Both last night and tonight, I've taken a benedryl hoping to drug myself unconscious.....still not working....Right now, I'm on the other side our place (about 1050 sq ft) WITH the bedroom door closed, a fan in the bedroom on, AND the tv in the living room on and I can still hear him!! It's 2am and not looking like I can sleep any time soon......