I've had my suspicions for a while now, but I can 100% say SD is vaping/smoking.
- she sneaks candle lighters in her room
- says she needs incense to burn
- her BFF got written up at school for smoking in the bathroom
- said BFF was "hanging out" in SDs room today and when they left I noticed her bedroom window was open (it's 30 degrees outside in the middle of winter)
I think DH might have a hunch. He has mentioned smelling something before. But I also think he might have blinders on. Normally I wouldn't care, but DH left this evening while said friend was still upstairs with SD13. I just don't want to be responsible for anything. Thinking I will mention it to him and hopefully he will handle it. At the very least, he SHOULD avoid putting me in the middle of situations like this again. I don't plan on saying anything to SD13 though.