DH wants SD13 to babysit?!
I had asked DH a few days prior if he could put DS3 to bed and watch the baby monitor Thursday night. He was a maybe, but said SD13 would be home and she could definitely "babysit." I immediately said, nevermind I'll just cancel my plans. I think DH was offended. Not that I care. He said "SD needs to start taking on more responsibilities." NO WAY I would ever let her solely watch my son. She completely ignores him when they are in the same room together. Typically only in the kitchen when SD13 comes downstairs to get food. They have no relationship & don't interact.
Also, DH has even told me he has caught her vaping/smoking in her room. Why would I ever let her babysit if she could possibly not be supervising and vaping instead? Ridiculous. I gave her a "chance" last year when both DH and I went next door. Not even 10 minutes later she was calling DH asking if she could have a friend over. *eyeroll* We came home two hours later to DS2 crying/screaming in his crib and SD sound asleep. Never again. Am I being over the top or unreasonable? I'm not going to put the safety of my DS3 at risk just because DH thinks "she needs more responsibilites." How about taking out the trash? Or doing dishes? Heck, even cleaning your OWN room. Let's start there first.
Annoyed that DH even THINKS this is a reasonable option. What would you say?