Thursday we met with BM2 for family therapy, so fun. She once again agreed to try the week on/week off schedule. As soon as she left I told SO to wait for the call/text to back out. It came maybe an hour later. SO forced it on her anyway. She made a big scene about the lack of child support (SO has custody) and how she can't afford to care for SD13 for a week. Her bills are paid by the state, she gets disability for her and SD13 and food stamps for both of them. We provided her with uniforms, after school clothes and even offered to do transportation. Her next excuse was she has doctors appointments so we offered to keep SD13 if she couldn't for that day. No way out BM.

I am 6 months pregnant, caring for DS2 and the skids, a house, blah blah. SO helps when he can and I try to help him out as well. Friday I pushed myself too hard and almost passed out. I wanted to take it easy for the night and did. SO and SS16 helped with DS2 and SS16 watched him so we could go to the movies. (Love this kid 99% of the time)

Since SO is working 2nd shift I had to provide transportation for SD13 after school as well as take SO to and from work. It was fine for a few days but I kept getting dizzy so he told BM2 she will have to drice SD13 1 day. Of course she had a fit and asked for money. No.

When SD13 goes to BM2s she comes back and acts like a damn parrot. You can tell she's hearing these things from her mother.

Tuesday after picking up SD13 on the way to BM2s she said she doesn't want to go to the school near us because she doesn't want to go with black people. She further explained that blacks, hispanics etc are ghetto. BM2 is the definition of ghetto. Of course I laid into her about what she said then SO did the next morning. BM2 is laughing and telling SO "lol get her". I know BM2 put this in her head because she wants SD13 to go to school near her. Just FYI SD, there are just as many "black people" there.

SD13 hasn't been punished by BM2 (shocker) so now we are left with it. She will be staying with us today and she is supposed to go to the ultrasound with us in the morning.

According to her therapist we aren't allowed to punish her like I would any other kid because she is so fragile. Whatever. So I thought I'd have her copy certain words from the dictionary (racism, equality, etc) a few hundred times, write a report on it, look up certain historical events and of course no internet, tv, whatever. I made it clear to SO that if she disrespects me once she will not be going tomorrow.

I don't know if that punishment is enough though. She has mixed siblings and her best friend is mixed. I don't stand for racism and I won't let her teach it to my children like my father tried to teach me.

Is it enough, too much? I want this to be the one and only time she needs to be punished for this.